[mhmcdade]

I’ve had a thing for this girl for like 5 months now. When I met her it was at my party, we tlkd a little. Then I ran into her at another party 2 days later and we ended up makin out. Exchanged numbers the next day before left. Shes pretty awesome. To some all this up. I like her, apparently she likes me. She is a sucha busy girl. So close with all her girly friends. I asked her out in july, she isnt sure she said, cuz going back to school in fall. which is 3 hours away. Thats cool i said. Pretty implied that she wants me to stick around until she figures out her sh**. I would constantly think thats a lie, cuz she rarely ever makes time for me. Once school had started I would think she doesnt want to talk anymore, but I would here from her at least once a week. I dont even contact her anymore, i wait for her to contact me. Here is the problem. She wants me to visit her at her school. I saw her twiiter page, jus creeped on it, scrolled to when first started hanging out. said “looking for good looking guys, get ur butt to the mall, kinda bummed i was already there with a guy but that didnt stop me from looking 😉“
btu nothin to worry right, cuz that was first week I met her.
my friends are telling me to back off and move on. I dont know what to do, she really wants me to visit her but i dont know if good idea. I did say, at first..you should give me a reason to. Then she came home and we hung out..
how do you know if someone is worth waiting for?

[Ask April Masini]

It sounds like you’re unsure of what you want, so you don’t know what to do. You talk about how she feels, but you don’t really say whether or not you’d like to date her. I know you used to think she was awesome, but now? Clearly, if you decide to date her, it’s going to be a little bit of a distance problem since she’s at school three hours away, but I can’t tell from your post if that’s a problem for you or not.

Let me know what YOU want, and I can try and help you get it. It’s pretty clear that she’s interested in your visiting, but that she may not be ready for a steady and solid relationship since you mention how busy she is.

I hope that helps.

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[mhmcdade]

Yah, that’s true. I like her A LOT. Just, I don’t know if I should hanging around like this.We obviously can’t date at the moment, but heres what im asking. I’m alomst never the never first person on her mind, quite a few times over the summer, we had made plans, but she totally forgot about me. At first i would think that she just doesnt care one bit. But kind of discovered she does, she still talks to me often which is nice. I want to see her, and spend more time with her, im just kind of scared of making a stupid mistake … like visiting her at herr college, would that be dumb?

[Ask April Masini]

I don’t think visiting her at college is stupid or dumb as long as you keep in mind that you can’t have a dating relationship with her because of the distance, and that she is someone who only wants what she wants when she wants it — and has often blown you off when you make plans with her. In other words, you may have a fun weekend with her, but don’t look for a long term relationship with this woman.

I hope that helps. Let me know how it goes — and you should buy my book called Date Out of Your League, that I wrote for men who want to win with women. You won’t have to be nervous about making a mistake if you read this and follow the tips and advice in it. Here’s the link to get it: [url]http://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/date-out-of-your-league.html[/url].

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