[kamakshi21]

I am a girl and I met with a guy at my college. he was my senior and We worked together on some projects and became friends. We were in a college together for 2 years but just as a friend. After that we did not talk for 1 year and we moved in different countries. After that year we started to chat and then he started to comments on my photos about how good looking I am. He wants to take part in my every single detail what is going up in my life, how I am living in a different country, about exams etc. Then I had a feeling maybe he starts loving me and scared to lose our friendship. I was also feeling the same.So, I took step further and told him that I have feelings for you but he said I do not want to disappoint you it is too early for me to think about that. It is not an easy task for me to say yes or No to you.He begin to talk with me on skype, and later he started to chat with me about sex. He is so caring but after 5 months of sexting we had an argument and I stopped talking with him for 1 month he did not even tried to make up in this mean time by doing single message. Then after 1 month I messaged him because I am in true love with him and asked the question you did not even missed me?
He said I was so busy and waiting for you to cool down. Then I said him I am coming in your city for 20 days for some work and he is so happy and wants to have sex with me on that time. I cannot figure it out If he is not in love with me then why he is interested in having sex with me.
Is he is playboy or faking a friendship with me without saying yes what I should do now ?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

This isn’t love or friendship. Sorry. 🙁

He wants to have sex with you, and that’s it. According to your pre-posting questionnaire, you’re 22 and he’s 25 and you’ve never dated. You’ve been connecting long distance via technology, and sexting, and you offered to go to see him in his country, and now he wants to have sex. For more experienced daters this may come as no surprise, but if you’re relatively new to dating, here’s the deal… if a guy wants to date you he will. If he doesn’t, he won’t. This guy hasn’t made any effort to come to your country to see you — you’re going to him. 😕 He hasn’t offered to take you to dinner or put you up in a hotel (separate from his place). He’s just looking for what’s easy, and if you are, he’s in.

There’s nothing wrong with this — as long as you don’t fool yourself into thinking this is more than what it really is. When a guy wants to have sex with you on the first time getting together, he’s not usually interested in more than that. If he wants to take you out and get to know you outside of sex, chances are he’s interested in a more well-rounded relationship that goes beyond sex.

As for his being in love with you… guys sometimes say what they need to say to keep you in the game. For best relationship results, pay attention to his behavior. What he says is less important than what he does and how he treats you. I hope that helps!

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