Good questions. 😉
If you do write again, let me know how old you both are — that always helps. 😉 Since you are early in the relationship, simply showing up at his family’s home with flowers and good wishes, may be presumptive and inappropriate. If you’d been dating for a year or two, it would be different, but given the early nature of the relationship you have, it’s too soon, so scratch that idea.
Focus your attention on him, not his mom, although be sure to tell him to send her your best wishes. It’s really his call whether he wants to invite you to visit her in the hospital or not. Let it remain his call. If he lives on his own, you can bring him food — when someone is taking care of a sick or injured relative, they usually don’t have time to shop or cook for themselves, and end up eating hospital cafeteria food or hospital vending machine food. 😐 I’m sure he would appreciate it if you brought him homemade lasagna or if you don’t cook, some cold cuts like roast beef, ham, cheese and fresh bread.
It’s normal for him to pull away if he’s focused on his mother’s health and welfare, especially since the two of you are so new to dating, so don’t freak out if you don’t hear from him as much as you usually do. Send notes that say you’re thinking of him and his mom and to please let you know if there’s anything you can do. 😉
Hope that helps!
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