So I need some thoughts/advice on getting out of the friend zone with on of my closest friends. A little back story: When I was in my senior year of college, I moved into an apartment complex and met my neighbor who was this gorgeous, smart, and amazing woman. Her and I became very close, often hanging out with each other, cooking, going on random adventures. But I never made a move (I was insecure back then) and she started dating this really bad guy for her. Every one of our friends (we had a close group of friends), told her it was bad idea. She ended up getting hurt by him. I ended up being the one that she came to consistently to talk about her issues and although I didn’t like doing it, I was pretty good at talking to her about it. Plus it allowed me to be around her even more. She had a feeling I liked her I’m sure, but I eventually told her the reason I was jealous of him (not until close to graduation) was because I had a big crush on her. Nothing happened (it just wasn’t gonna work then) and we graduated. She moved back home (About a 6 hour drive away). Her and I talk via text almost every week to this day for the last 3 years since we parted ways. We talk about everything and anything about life, relationships, etc. I flirt with her a little via text, but it’s hard for anything tangible to happen due to the distance. I’ve seen her in person a few times since then. One of which we got lunch and I asked her straight up why it never worked out between us. Her response (during halfway through a 3 hour lunch) was that she knew in the very beginning whether or not she is attracted to someone or not. The lunch continued and we had a great time catching up in person. Her and I still talk about our personal relationships and get advice from each other on how to approach certain aspects of them. Long story short, she may be moving close to where I live for grad school or I may be moving close for my business in the near future. I’m curious if it’s possible based on how close we are already if in the future (months or years), there is even a chance that her and I could get romantically involved? Is it possible to get out of the friend zone when you’re this deep into it? I could see myself possibly marrying this girl if she felt the same way. I don’t mind waiting (since we don’t live even close to each other). I am a good looking, successful guy, who has dated a good amount of girls so confidence is not a problem. It’s just situational with her. Anybody have any thoughts? Thanks and I really appreciate it.
