[hskiptomyloo]

Hi april

I need advice on this one…I posted on this discussion board before about a certain guy that was trying to get in contact with me. He was trying to get my number from a friend but she didnt really know him so he have her his number and wanted me to call him soon. I never called him since he was the one that wanted to stop seeing each other last year. A couple days ago he text me in the morning then again in the afternoon. But I dont know if i should even start up any type of communication again. Should i wait until he calls? He is a good guy but i am just totally confused on this one. And i am wondering how he even got my number 😕 Any advice would be appreciated, Thank you.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

If you’ve posted before on this subject it would be really helpful to see your past posts. The best thing to do is find your last post and submit any news on the subject by clicking the reply button so I can see the history of your problem. As you’ve written it, it sounds like you don’t know whether or not to respond to a guy who is trying to reach you — but I’m not sure why you stopped seeing him last year or for how long you two dated — or how old you all are. That information would help! 😀 On the face of it, there’s no reason not to respond, but then again, I don’t know your history with him…..

[Anonymous]

The question i see is you have to ask yourself…’What do you want”????. I dont know your past relationship either to know what happened or why you two broke up in the first place or anything like that so i cant really comment in anyway, but my personal opinion is there is no harm in having a little chat with him and seeing what he was wanting.. Thats only if you want to go back there weather its to hard emotional for you and what eva happened between you to, but i dont see why you can msg him or call him back because it could be for any reason, but you wont know that until you speak with him…How ever you are feeling just please think about yourself first and making sure you know what you want before considering someone else, 🙂 x

[hskiptomyloo]

The background info is that i am 24 and he is 27, we were together for almost 2 years and had fun seeing each other any chance we got because we lived 3 hours apart. I was in college and he would drive a long way to see me, we had some of the best times just watching movies, chatting, and getting to know one another. I thought he was the nicest, sexiest guy i ever met. So when i knew i could trust him we got more physically intimate but i never had sex with him because i wanted to keep my virginity until i knew it was the right time. He was sweet and never made me feel bad about wanting to wait. We ended up breaking up because he was going to enter the armed forces and said he really didnt know where our relationship was going and he wanted to focus on his future. I dont blame him for wanting to make a better life for himself but it hurt that he just ended what i thought was a good thing. It wasit hard to get over him because i had never had a real relationship and really trusted him. And now that he is trying to contact me is out of the blue and wierd because he was the one that wanted to stop seeing each other. First he tried to get my number from a friend and ended up texting me saying “Hi ” and sent another saying “Is this hazel (my name)?” but i did not reply, i still need to find out how he even got my number because my friend said she didnt give him my number. I dont know what to do but i know i still have feelings for him and love him because he was the first guy i ever trusted and let myself be open with. Thanx any advice would he helpful.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

I understand that you dated for two years, but when did you break up? How long has it been since you were together? If his being in the military and having served his country has caused him to grow up and realize what he lost in you, he may be ready to make things right, now. He may feel that now he’s ready to settle down and get serious. If this is the case, and he’s all that you described him to be, it may be in your best interest to at least hear him out.

I know that the break up hurt you, but it doesn’t sound like his reasons for breaking up were wrong since he was going to serve in the military and wouldn’t be able to see you while he was doing this.

Stop worrying about how he got your phone number and focus on whether or not you’re too hurt to hear from him again. If you’re not seeing anyone and you’re still interested in him, and he’s ready to commit to you, this could be a good time to hear from him.

I hope that helps.

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[hskiptomyloo]

Thanks for the advice April! I think i know what to do know. We broke up last june and its been almost a year since we had any type of communication.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

If you get in touch with him, and hear what he has to say, stay focused on your needs. Getting back together with a boyfriend that you already invested in isn’t the same as getting to know someone for the first time. If he’s not exhibiting behavior that shows you he’s committed and serious in the same way and on the same schedule as you are, don’t waste time. 😀

[Anonymous]

Hi April…
soo I am having some problems with my boyfriend/ babies dad and I really dont know what to do at this point. I am 20 years old and he is 21 and we’ve been together on and off for almost 5 years.. we also have a 3 year old son together. so in the past he was unfaithful and cheated and was just kind of “mean” to me I guess and I lied to him a few times about things because of how he used to react (anger problems). which caused some trust issues but we got over them and moved on. up until recently everything was fine and now we are fighting all the time about really small and stupid things and this past friday I came clean to him about a drug problem I was having. he obviously got very upset and now doesnt trust me at all and doesnt know if he still wants to be with me or not. but see, I am so used to the way he used to react to things that I sometimes get scared of telling him stuff and just lie to him to avoid a huge freak out and him yelling and screaming at me. i love him soo much and do not want to lose him over this, but at the same time I cant blame him for not wanting to stay with me. i am very confused about what I should do to gain his trust back 😕 any advice would be greatly appreciated!!!

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Please start a new post with this new question. Here’s the reason why: If the original poster of this string has a followup question or news to add, she can go back to this original post and hit the reply button to update her news. That way I will see her entire history. And you get the same benefit if you start a new string of posts with your new question!

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