[Anonymous]

So I have an update I had posted a while back and I was the one who damaged the relationship due to my actions, I had apologized to his family members that i wasn’t nice to, he has told me in the past that he was willing to get back into the relationship after I made up for his business that I damaged which I agree is the right thing to do, yesterday I found some disparaging posts about him and his business in a public forum and since he hadn’t been reading my emails I emailed one of his sisters who was very nice and responsive and now my ex did read my emails, but I don’t want to push him I am not yet able to make up for his business but I will be at some point, I lost my business unfortunately, and I know I am learning how men are and their work and I just don’t think he will feel right about me until I make up for his business that I damaged, so what can I do to let him know that I wont push him but I am open and that I have every intention of making up for his business the minute I can? I don’t want to appear like I am chasing him either. What should I take the responsiveness from his sister to mean? And what about him reading my emails now? What does that mean? Confused please advise I don’t want to mess this up again.

[Ask April Masini]

Please re-post this question on your ORIGINAL string of posts on this subject. It’s a lot easier for the readers to follow your story and my advice when you use ONE USER NAME and keep your entire story in one string of posts.

Just go back to your original string of posts and hit the reply button and repost this question. I’m more than happy to answer it, but it’s much more interesting and you’ll get much better advice if everything is in one place. I remember you kept posting for advice under different user/e-mail names in a short period of time — it’s much better if you keep just one so everyone can get to know you and your situation. 😉

I look forward to reading your entire story and giving you my best advice!

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[Anonymous]

I can’t find the original post anywhere.

[Ask April Masini]

I remember you well 😆 — you used the usernames [b]goldensun3000[/b], [b]goldensun2000[/b] and [b]goldensun1000[/b]. And even just in the last 24 hours [i]instead of following my request, you’ve used the following TWO DIFFERENT user names[/i]: [b]goldens3000[/b] and [b]golden11[/b]! 😯

I also remember that you wrote and told me you used different e-mail addresses to stalk and ruin your boyfriend’s business and that you expected him to be there for you post surgery even after you’d cost him business and yelled at his sisters who also took care of you during what you described as your chronic health issues, even buying you get well jewelry! One of your problems was that you don’t want to do the work that is required in relationships — and that’s evident right here on this forum. This is all the more reason for you to START NOW and do the work NOW and find your e-mails to me here, and compile them so the readers and myself can help you.

It’s important for you to get rid of this sense of entitlement you have that everyone else should accommodate you, instead of you doing the work that everyone else does — whether it’s on a forum or in a relationship — to be part of a relationship, a family or a community.

I hope you’ll do the work this time. I’d really like to help you, but you have to meet me halfway. 🙂 So, go find those posts to me — they were within the last month or two I think, compile them, and use ONE USER NAME so we can all help you — which is what I want to do and I’m sure the other readers do, too. 🙂

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