[rysyrauni]

As stated the woman of my dreams, the woman I’ve been in love with for awhile now is pregnant. Our history is hard to put into words and not create such a lengthy post as well. We love each other, but we have had complications, our relationship had become on-off and then she found someone new. The problem is there’s a large chance he’s the father and she’s decided to stay with him and keep the baby. In the past we were together and were forced to abort our child. I love this woman and this man is no good for her and can’t even take care of himself. I also know that he had to undergo rehab for a terrifying addiction and she cheated on him with me while he was away. I’m afraid if she stays she’s making a bad decision and I’m making myself know that whatever she decides its up to her, but we’ve been through so much and I’ve helped her in every possible way. I want to convince her that she should leave him and be with me, raise the child together. Which it should be known that the child may also be mine. She must sound horrible in this post and I may sound controlling or maybe oblivious, but the situation is much beyond that. I love this woman and I will do anything to win her back. She may still love me and in many ways she needs me and I need her. I really need help, please help me get her back, convince her I love her, I’m her man, and that I can raise this child for her.

[Ask April Masini]

I’m not sure how old you all are, but if she’s a legitimate adult, her decision who to date is up to her, and there’s only so much you can do to make her come back to you. However….. at the risk of sounding like I’m hawking a product when you have such an extreme situation on your hands…. Date Out of Your League is a book I’ve written for men who want to get the girl and keep her. That sure sounds like you, and this book will give you lots of GREAT advice on tips on winning her over, which is EXACTLY what you have to do right now. So my advice is to spring the $14.95 for the book and download it immediately. You can read it tonight and start implementing my techniques for making her yours. I really think it’s a good thing for you to do. Here’s the link to get the book: [url]http://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/date-out-of-your-league.html[/url].

Regardless of what happens with your relationship, you should encourage her to have a paternity test as soon as possible so you can know if the child she’s carrying is yours or not. If this is your child, you’ll have a lifetime of co-parenting with her and all that time to prove yourself to her as a great dad, an all around great guy, and the man of her dreams. It would seem that would be enough to sway a woman to your side.

The elephant in the room, however, is the concern that she has chosen a drug addict as a boyfriend — and then cheated on him with you — and then went back to him, leaving you for him. Now she’s pregnant with a child that belongs to one of you and no one is sure who’s the father of the child. Her decision making skills aren’t particularly sound, and that doesn’t bode well for her making a good decision now — or sticking to it once she makes one.

Your strength is about to be tested, but I think you’re up to the task. Get the book tonight. Read it, and start executing the tips and advice to make her yours. Then have her get a paternity test, and go forward from there, as a father or a step-father figure to the baby.

I hope that helps — let me know how things go.

And please join me at AskApril.com on Facebook at this link: [url][/url]. 🙂

[rysyrauni]

Thank you so much for your help, but it looks like I won’t be done quite yet of course. So far so good, I bought the book and it was tremendous help, I had no idea it would work so well, so thank you, THANK YOU. We went out and had a great time, we were intimate, and I found out that she still loves me and wants to be accepted back into the family. So apparently part of her is telling her that she can ditch this guy, but its too early yet and she hasn’t. I have her hooked, I KNOW I can get her back, she agrees it’s not over and we could have a future, but how do I do that? How do I make her come back and stay for good? Maybe she realizes more now that this guy is way below her and myself, she says that when she’s with me I steal her heart and that she wants to be with me and no one else. How can I make her feel like that all the time, even when I’m not around or when she’s with him? I don’t want to be used, I don’t want there to be any lies, and most of all I don’t want to push her, but I’ve gotten this far with your fantastic advice and your help, how do I get over this hump and bring back the girl of my dreams forever?

[Ask April Masini]

I’m so glad Date Out of Your League [url]http://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/date-out-of-your-league.html[/url] helped you get back on track with her! 😀 Keep it up, and re-read the book so you know what to do to keep winning her over. Balance that skill with not being too available so that she wants you on your terms — which mean exclusively. Remember: Women don’t want the guy who’s a pushover or who’s too “nice”. So don’t be so available to her that she feels you’re a sure thing.

In addition to winning her over, you need to get to know her better and figure out why she is attracted to a drug addict, and if she is truly done with him. Remember, her involvement with him puts her baby and you at risk — not to mention herself. There are sexually transmitted diseases that are often transmitted by certain drug use, that she may be exposing everyone around her to. There is also a character problem that allows her to be with someone who’s a drug addict. So if she realizes she made a bad mistake with this other guy, then that’s understandable, but if she’s still interested in him, you really need to find out who she is deep down because that should factor into your decision to be with her.

Let me know how it all goes and continues to go. And please join me on Facebook. I’d love to have you there at this link: [url][/url].

[rysyrauni]

I’m going to sit and talk with her as soon as possible and keep my distance so that she’ll miss me more as well. She’s been a bit different today and I think it’s just that we’re apart and she’s with him. Thank you so much for all your help, you really boost my confidence. I’m almost tempted to show her this, but I don’t think I should (this forum topic). I just really want her to know that I love her and want the best for her, which I know I can give her. I also don’t want her to think I’m nuts being the only person thinking she made a mistake. Is there anyway that you could pm or email me a message to her that I could show her? Once again, thank you for all your help.

[Ask April Masini]

I’m really glad I was able to help you, 😀 but my sending you a private message or e-mail for you to show her is a bad idea. 😕 She needs to come to her decision on her own. If she doesn’t, the decision will be short-lived — and I know you don’t want that.

Again, re-read the book so you really soak in the advice, and then follow it. It sounds like it’s helped you so far. I trust it will continue to help.

Join me on Facebook, too! I’d really love to have you as a free member of AskApril.com on Facebook. Here’s that link: [url][/url]. 🙂

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