[lurvey788]

April,
My boyfriend says he loves me but he is not ready for marriage. He says he cant think about marriage for at least another 3 years and even then he is not able to give a definitive answer as to when he wants to marry in exactly 3 years. I am 25 and he is 27. He says he wants to build his career first and get a mortgage. I am south Asian and my parents are pressuring me to get an arranged marriage if I dont have anyone suitable in mind In my culture, I am passing my peak for marriage. My parents are worrying me that if I keep saying no to the proposals that are coming through eventually they will stop coming. I want to marry now too because I want to have kids whilst I am fairly young. I love him but I dont know if I should wait for him especially because even if I wait years there is no guarantee that he will propose. I am confused. Please help.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

If you want to get married and have kids now, then it’s time to move on. But when you do, make sure you don’t invest your time and energy in someone who isn’t ready for the same things you are. You can find through dating, pretty early on, if a man is ready for marriage and children or not. You might want to consider dating someone who’s far enough along in his career that he is ready for these things, just as you are. Compatibility is very important when your’e looking for someone to marry. 😉

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