I’ve known my friend V. for 6 years. He’s been separated since October, and we’ve been lovers since January. C (his ex) knows he’s dating me, and knows that we work together. The divorce was final 3 weeks ago. Yesterday, I avoided C when I saw her at the parade. But when I saw V and his mom walking down the street with C nowhere in sight, I went and made conversation for a few minutes. V told me that C was right behind us, so I cut my visit short, and moved on to find my son.
C apparently freaked out, and caused suffering for her kids and V. He thinks that I was not sensitive enough to C’s feelings. I say that at this point, she could maybe start getting used to the idea that in a small town, where our kids are friends, and I work with V, and I’m friends with his mom, and we have friends in common, that maybe, just maybe, she start figuring out where to go from here.
V and I agreed to disagree, and not see each other this weekend. I told him that I don’t think he’s ready to be my ‘boyfriend’. I also told him that I’m afraid I’ll be the transitional woman after all. Not that I’m sorry for it; I’m not. I just would rather have him free and clear.
Plus, I have my own issues, with my Dad, and my kids, and overwork… This whole gray area where I don’t have any control – I’m tremendously uncomfortable.
I’m not sure what I’m looking for here… maybe someone else has done this particular walk before? It’s all new to me. Thanks!
