I am 45 and have been divorced for over 4 years. I am not new to dating and I’ve always been pretty good at playing it cool and not being needy. But now I am faced with a situation that I am having a real hard time figuring out. I met a woman about a month ago. We have a great connection and I really like her. She has told me that she likes me as well. To date we have not had sex (trust me I have tried). We have slept in the same bed and cuddled / fell asleep together several times. She said that we have only known each other for three weeks and she does not know me well enough to have sex with yet. I totally understand and she is well worth the wait. I am trying to not come across as being to needy, but the situation is making it hard. Normally I try to not make myself to available, but this time around its hard to do.
She works as a sales executive with a large company. She is out of town from Tuesday to Thursday or Friday, so I have a limited amount of time with her. How the heck am I suppose to NOT be easily available, when we only have a few days a week to see each other.
She recently told me about an ex she had broken up with two years ago. She said that he hurt her pretty bad. I talked to her friends and they told me that her ex still has a grip on her, but that she really like me. He was separated at the time, but went back to his with and has a family, he lives 8 hours away. She told me that it is very much over and she knows it will never work.
So now I am wondering if were not sleeping together because she is stuck on her ex or if she just wanted to wait. She seems to be a bit old fashion and doesn’t want to rush into anything. I’m finding myself stressing a little and not sure what to do.
Her friend told me to not text or call for a week and give her time to miss me. The problem is that I am 45 years old and don’t want to play games. She is 44 and if I play games, they may backfire on me.
Please help me figure this out. I may be over thinking this but It is really stressing me out. I REALLY LIKE HER!
