[Ktc8901]

Please help me.

Ever since falling pregnant I’ve fallen out of love with my boyfriend,
Everything before me falling pregnant was wonderful, I know hormones are at play here in the sense I have no sex drive, everything he does at the moment really winds me up and I don’t want any intermicy with him.

But why have I completely fallen out of love with him this can’t be hormones

I know I love him but its not the same falling back in love with him would be truly amazing but I can’t see it happening.

I really need some advice has anyone else been in my situation how did it work out what can I do

Please please help

[April Masini, your AskApril]

How old are you both? How long have you been dating? How pregnant are you?

[Ktc8901]

Hi

I’m 17 weeks pregnant and we’ve been dating 18 months both 24

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Got it — thanks for the extra information! 🙂

Here’s what I think is going on. You’re young, and you’ve been dating for a year and a half, but at 17 weeks of pregnancy, your body is starting to appear pregnant, and the reality of life is sinking in. Romance and “falling” in love is wonderful, but long term relationships go up and down and they survive because couples get through the tough times and the realities of relationships — not just floating through the falling in love and blissful parts.

This is a coming of age moment for you. Even if you’re not feeling “in love” with your boyfriend, my guess is that you do love him and that you haven’t really thought about the mature reasons for that love: his loyalty, character, sense of responsibility, etc. Having a baby is serious business — it’s not all photos of cooing kids and baby showers with onesies and sparkly, new strollers. It’s real life. You and your boyfriend are going to be parents and what will help you in your relationship is love, romance — and responsibility, hard work, character, the ability to communicate, loyalty — grown up stuff. 😉

Time for you to start doing things in the relationship because they’re the right things to do — not just because you feel them or you don’t feel them. 😉

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