[omfgcarly]

I really like this guy, Jake, and he admitted his feelings for me not that long ago. Probably around a week ago. Anyway, we used to talk EVERY day, but after he told me he had feelings for me, we hardly ever talk. We talked like 2 times since then, but both times the conversation just never went anywhere. I hadnt talked to him for a couple days, so I messaged him on Thursday when he was online, but he didnt answer me. Since then, we have been online at the same time before but never said anything to each other. I would have texted or called him, but his phone was having problems, so facebook was the only place I could contact him. I also dont want to seem clingy by sending him a bunch of messages. He also told me when he admitted his feelings for me that he was shy when it came to relationships, in fact, I told him I had feelings for him a day before he told me, and I basically had to pry it outta him the next day. 😛 At the same time I know he isnt mad at me, because he has been ‘poking’ me through facebook, though thats nothing new & has been happening since we met. But whats his problem? Im also always thinking that its because hes talking to some other girl, or that he doesnt have feelings for me anymore, or got bored with me or something. I just dont know why he is doing this.

I also have REALLY bad anxiety, so it is probably making it seem 1,000 times worse than it really is. Either way, what is going on? I really like him, and I dont want to mess anything up between us.

[Kevin08]

How did you respond after he told you he liked you?

I’ve been put off in the past after telling someone I had interest in them and they gave me poor response or didn’t seem excited about it…but I don’t know the details so I hope this little bit can help clear it up somewhat.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

First of all, it’s never a good idea to tell a guy that you like them, first. Once you do, you’ve taken away his opportunity to “lead” in the relationship. Men really like to lead, so let them! 😀

Second of all, if you have to “pry it out of him,” when you want to know his feelings, you have to understand he didn’t really want to say it. If he did, he would have freely. So no more prying things out of people! 😉

If you messaged him online and he didn’t respond, take the hint. He’s not interested in talking to you. 😳

I know you have anxiety, but you’re creating situations where you’re going to be anxious. Let men come to you on their own. That way you’ll really, truly know how they feel and not be left wondering.

I hope that helps!

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