[Anonymous]

I’ve known my guy for 10 months. Two months ago I told him I wanted to take a break since he was not ready for a “relationship”. He was upset.

When we first met, he was unemployed and our time together was spent mostly “inside” dates, going shopping, having dinner at his home or mine. During our time together he felt bad because he could not afford to take me out because his savings were running very low. But he said once he got his first paycheck, he was going to take me out to a nice dinner. He also told me on a few occasions the reason he wasn’t ready for any relationship was because of his being unemployed and had nothing to offer me. Each date he pushed me away from getting intimate and said, “I’m not ready”. Two weeks ago he found a job which he likes very much.

In the past we spoke every day on the phone. Now since our ‘break” two months ago, I’ve cut it back to just 2x a week. And I do not call him first. The last two conversations he told me he missed being with me but I did not respond to it…just listened.

The other night he left a message saying, “I hope you’ll do me the honor of having dinner with me.” My question is: Do I go out to dinner with him? How do I know if he’s ready for that ‘relationship” now? I do love him and I know he loves me but i also know he’s scare of being hurt. I haven’t been out with anyone else but I’m keeping my options open.

[relayshuns]

Do him the honor and go to dinner for now!

[RomanticMan]

You should definitely give the guy a shot. I mean, what’s the best that can happen? 😉

Speaking from personal experience, I know what it’s like to date someone while being unemployed. It’s isn’t easy for men, especially if we find someone we’re really interested in. But if you really want to be helpful, continue to be an asset to him rather than an expense. Men are more than willing to enter a relationship with a woman who adds ridiculous amounts of value to their life.

Hope this helps.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

If you like him, then go out to dinner with him. However….I would strongly recommend that you buy and read Think & Date Like A Man, a book I wrote for women who want to find, get and keep Mr. Right. You can get it at Amazon.com or on the Barnes & Noble website — or right here: [url]https://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/think-and-date-like-a-man.html[/url] as an automatic download. You should definitely read it!

Whether or not he’s afraid of being hurt, he’s clearly taking the first step by asking you out on a proper date. You have no reason that I see to think he’s got anything but good intentions.

Read the book; go on the date; and let me know how things go.

And follow me @AskAprilcom on Twitter, and on Facebook at this link: [url][/url]. 😀

[Lamine]

You wouldn’t know if you don’t give him a try. Go on a date with him, listen to him. You need more information to telll if he is ready or not.

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