You’re not going to be able to win him back in one last visit after years (you didn’t say how long you were together, but if you were living together and had a bank account together, I’m guessing it’s years) of destructive behavior. Things don’t work that way. [i]However,[/i] you can leave on a good note and be thankful for the time you had together and even for his leaving you because it finally got you to change behavior that was going to destroy any and every relationship you were in — not just this one. You can tell him he was right, and that you’ve learned so much from his behavior in response to yours. You can thank him for everything. And you can finally ask that he call you sometime, just to say hello and be in touch.
You can’t make people forgive you or change their own behavior. You can only change yours. If you want him to show you’ve changed, then really do change and be understanding and focused on what is positive — not just what you want in the moment.
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