Okay, thanks for the extra information. It helps.
It sounds like you’re 21 and you’re in love with a woman you’ve never dated. She’s backing off and you’re upset about it. I understand. It’s very hurtful to feel rejected. But there are two choices you get to make when you face rejection. One is to accept the closed door you’re being offered, be grateful for the clarity, and look for women to date who are into you, not rejecting you. 😉 The other choice you have is to fight for her and decide to compete and overcome the rejection. This doesn’t always work, but it’s an option.
If you decide to fight for her then you have to act strategically. Simply trying to convince her long distance isn’t working and if you continue to take this stance, you run the risk of getting into an adversarial dynamic where she ends up blocking you and cutting off contact completely because she feels you aren’t respecting her and are arguing with her — so try to avoid that. Since you haven’t dated her, but you’re telling her you love her, there’s a big step missing here: Dating! 😉 Make the grand gesture and ask her out on a date. Make it something very special and show her this other side of you where you walk the walk, not just talk the talk. Send flowers. Plan romance, and see if you can win her over this way.
Bottom line: The ball is in your court and you get to choose how to behave to get her!
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