[vampyvixen1]

After coming out of a divorce a few years ago and relocating back to my home state, my neighbor talked me into putting a profile up on an online dating site. After a few weeks on this site, I received a message from a man who turns out lives 5 minutes up the road. We exchanged emails and some phone calls and I happen to look him up on FB and was surprised to see many common friends, including my brothers!!! Turns out he went to H.S. with my brothers. I think the man is very nice, and I would not be opposed to continue to get to know him, but I was a little concerned with the “circle of friends”….I did not want it to turn out to be the gossip between the mutual friends and my brother, nor did i not want this man to be uncomfortable when I told him who I was. I think it is safe to say this man might be more of an acquaintance, rather than a friend after all these years with my brothers. I haven’t had a chance to speak with my brother and find out if he keeps in contact with this man on a regular basis, but I feel I should before I tell him about this situation. I really do not know how to handle this! Please advise this girl who clearly is rusty when it comes to the dating game!!!

[April Masini, your AskApril]

If you worry about what everybody thinks, you’re going to spend all your time analyzing, overanalyzing and second guessing — instead of actually dating this guy and getting to know if you like him, yourself! 😉 If he asks you out on a date, then that’s the time to mention the connections, if you feel the conversation warrants it. Otherwise, just see what he’s like — if you’re not interested in dating him, none of this really matters. It’s just interesting. And if you are interested in dating him, then you can take it one day at a time. In other words, don’t worry about who knows whom. You’re both single and you’re both interested in each other, and for now, that’s really all that should matter. 😀

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[vampyvixen1]

Thanks so much!!!!!

[April Masini, your AskApril]

You’re very welcome. 😀

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