What you’re going through is normal, just like other married couples—they also go through the same thing. Imagine being together for 14 years; there really comes a point where someone can get tired of sex, no matter how good it is.
The problem is that you may think you both have the same desire. What I mean is, you think you’re both fulfilling each other’s needs in sex, but maybe you’re the only one who is thinking that.
Maybe she is already feeling pressured because of all the preparation you put into the sexual experience you want her to have, which is why she is avoiding sex.
It would be better to clearly communicate to her that sex is important to you and that you need it as a man, and that it is one of the foundations of your relationship for you to have lasted 14 years. Maybe she doesn’t even realize that. And she may think that everything you do is only to make her happy, when in reality you are also doing it to meet your own needs.
