If you want to be happy you have to treat yourself well, and if you want to cry and be sad, then you have to treat yourself poorly — which is what you’re doing. 😮 I can’t do the heavy lifting for you. You have to do it yourself. And be very clear — this problem is no longer about him. It’s really about you. You’re 26 years old (thanks for the information on your pre-posting questionnaire), and you have to take care of yourself in many ways. Choosing who you spend time with — whether it’s family, friends and even boyfriends — is your responsibility to yourself. If you choose to spend time with and give your energy and yourself to a man who doesn’t treat you well, that’s your choice. 🙁 There’s no magic here — if you want to feel good, then you simply have to stop seeing this guy who makes you cry and treats you poorly. It’s pretty simple. Your friends have already given you this advice and I agree with them.
So, let’s talk about what you’re getting from being with him that is keeping you in the relationship in spite of his poor treatment of you. Some people would rather be with a bad match than be single. They fear being alone and this may be what’s going on with you. Dating and finding Mr. Right is work and lots of people are either lazy or fear failure at this relationship work. If this resonates for you, consider that it may be true. If so, the problem you’re facing is that until you can truly be single, you won’t be able to find Mr. Right because you’ll be in a relationship with Mr. Wrong. It’s much easier to find a new guy if you’re single than if you’re not, so let that be an impetus to face your discomfort and do the work! In addition, you’re losing out on opportunities. Guys won’t show interest if they think you’re taken, so if you break up with this person and become single, you’ll be a possibility to other men! There’s more, but the bottom line is that this guy isn’t right for you, you know it, and you need to do the work to move on in life. No one can do it for you. This is your project, alone! 😉
