[Anonymous]

So, here I am, a complete role play addict dating a boy who used to RP regularly and no longer does.

I’ve tried to get him to RP with me numerous times because I love interactive writing and being able to experience things beyond reality through words. He’s got ideas and great characters, he’s not a bad writer either, but I can’t get him to RP with me for the life of me. It’s the one thing I want him to do with me most and I can’t convince him to do it. I guess I’ve stressed him out about it (I don’t really know how) and scared him off by talking about it so much.

But this was almost four months ago. I’ve given up since and I’m looking for alternative places to RP. But when I RP, I don’t only go for story. I LOVE giving my characters a good romance. Me and my best friend used to hook our characters up all the time and enjoyed it immensely, but that friend has since become..well, not such a good friend to me and we’ve parted ways.

Now I’m looking into other RP sites to find another one-on-one RPer I can enjoy a story with. But, if my character has a romance with his or hers, is it cheating? Is it fair to my boyfriend?

I love my boyfriend dearly. We’re both 19 and we’ve been dating for almost 16 months now — and are still happy with each other. We’re actively enjoying each other’s company (thank god we live only three blocks apart), go on dates, hang out with friends, play video games together, and have [i]*giggle*[/i] great, great, romantic sex.

But RP for me is like interacting with a part of the soul. Someone who’s not just putting on a show for real life, who can do things they want in a world that they created. It’s much more than simply putting in a mask and acting like someone else for while. And if the connection with characters is that deep for me, perhaps is it unfair to my boyfriend that I should be RPing with another. He’s fine if I RP with friends, but I’m fairly sure my character’s romantic interest in another character who belongs to some other guy would make him feel insecure.

Perhaps I’ve answered my question there. The last thing I want to do is cheat on him.

But, that brings about another. How can I get him to RP with me? Is he avoiding it? If he is, might there be a reason? I can’t figure it out.

Your advice is much appreciated! (As silly a subject as it might seem…)

[Ask April Masini]

Role playing with romantic story lines is a surefire way to invoke real life feelings, so role playing with a man who isn’t your boyfriend may not start out as cheating, but it sure opens the door to do so. 😕 Knowing that, it is wrong to look for romantic role playing partners online while maintaining the illusion that you’re not cheating.

However, if you love role playing with romantic elements, why not take that desire and transfer it to writing stories or a novel or some other form of fiction? You can still exercise your creative juices and explore the world of romance while not involving another man. You get to write the man’s role and the woman’s role — on paper! Or another way to do this is to get into professional acting or community theatre. You can act in a play with a group of other actors while maintaining a professional or semi-professional demeanor that shouldn’t threaten your relationship. Acting classes or writing classes work wonderfully, too.

I hope that helps! And…I hope you check out my newly forming Facebook Group page, AskApril.com on Facebook at this link: [url][/url]. I look forward to seeing you there! 😀

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