[Anonymous]

Hi,

I have this problem. There is a guy that I have never met or talked to; he was working at company that I used to work for. He’s an CEO at this company. He is short and not my type at all. Have never talked to the guy, so I can’t imagine what is going through this guy’s mind. There is chemistry and attraction to be tested when you meet someone., but this is not the case. I have never met the guy, only see the pictures on the Internet. I know people and the only thing I could think of is that other people spread rumors about me.

Somehow, I indirectly specify that I was not interested in him to a group of his friends. His friends follow me around and see what I do and say. Whatever I do or say is interpreted as having something to do with him and that something is interpreted that I am interested in him.

I can’t do whatever I want and not be interpreted as something that has to be about him. I even tried to indirectly say to him through his friends that it was a no and I am not interested in him in anyway. For some reason, they do not take that message as a no but continue to speculate and assume that I am interested in him.

I feel grossed out by this and don’t know how to stop this because I want to be able to do whatever I want and not to be cautious of my actions that might be interpreted as I am trying to tell this guy that I am interested. There is no dispute about it; a no is a no. I don’t know how to get this thing into his head, so he could direct his energy to somehwere else.

I know his email, but I am not sure if it is approppriate to tell him off. What do you think? How do I do this, so I can get this guy out from my hair. It’s worsed because I never met the guy. I am getting signs that he thinks I am interested in him and that he is interested in me.

Thanks,
Signed “I am grossed out.”

[April Mașini, your AskApril]

It sounds like this guy hasn’t asked you out on a date, so I’m not sure why you’re upset. If he does ask you out, you can say no.

I think you’re reacting to gossip, and that’s never a winning game. 😕 Forget what everyone else says and does and just focus on your own life and your work at the office.

I hope that helps. Let me know how things go, and join me on Facebook. I’d love to have you as a member of AskApril.com on Facebook. Here’s that link: [url][/url].

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