[karean18]

I am 18 and I have been dating a guy 8 years older than me for a month now. He has 4 kids and 2 baby mothers. He is a dancer and only gets paid when he has a performance. He treats me good. We’ve only been on dates to the movies. But all he does is talk about himself and when he does things for me, he throws it in my face all the time. {i.e “I brought you ____ so you gotta do ______} I am going to college soon in another state and he is already talking about coming to see me at school almost every month. I told him to take the relationship slow but we are moving fast. I just had a birthday and he got us a hotel room just a month into the relationship, we didnt have sex because im waiting till marriage but he made a big deal about it. I don’t know if we should continue this relationship. Should I hold on and see where we could go ? Or should I let him go and not waist his time?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Put on your running shoes and bolt. 😕

This guy doesn’t care about you. If you’re waiting for marriage to have sex, and he got a hotel room for your birthday after you’ve been dating only one month, you should be able to see that he’s not thinking of you. Besides, according to the pre-posting questionnaire you filled out, he’s got [b]four children under the age of five[/b] — and the youngest is only 10 months old — this isn’t a guy who takes commitment or responsibility (or birth control) very seriously. The fact that he’s eight years older than you isn’t really important, but the fact that he doesn’t appear to be someone who is respectful, is. Definitely break up with him and find someone who is a good match for you — who wants the same things you do and who has a good character. You’ll be much happier. 🙂 And less confused.

I hope that helps!

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