[Anonymous]

So I danced with a guy on Saturday and found out later that he’s a new roommate of my sisters friend. I’ll admit, we were flirting really heavily as we danced and he bought me a few drinks. I was actually very forward and was the one to initiate the dancing. We didn’t kiss or anything. Anyway, he paid for the cab ride home (I was with my female friend) and he wanted me to spend the night. Of course, I didn’t, but we exchanged numbers. He texted me later that night and he told me to text him later and even made sure to include his name in the text

So today, Monday, I texted him around 7pm and just thanked him for the cab ride home and a fun night. Havn’t heard anything yet…should I expect to? lol

I don’t know how guys work! Is it normal for guys to play hard to get like this? BTW I’m 22 and he’s 25.

I’m over my sisters friends place every once in a while…so I hope it doesn’t get weird.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

He may or may not contact you depending on how interested he is. So don’t expect contact — but if you get it, then be pleasantly surprised! One of the problems with your being the aggressor (something I never recommend), is that you can’t always tell where you stand and how much a guy REALLY likes you. Guys will dance with you, kiss you and have sex with you — because they can. But if a guy works at winning you over it’s because he wants to!

I hope that helps. Let me know how it goes, and please follow me @AskAprilcom on Twitter and on Facebook at this link: [url][/url]. 😀

[Anonymous]

got a contact from him and of course i was pleasantly surprised. Seems like we’ll be going out sometime this week.

Out of curiosity, why are you opposed to women taking a stand and going after what they like/want? Every guy I’ve treated/paid for have been very grateful. I suspect it’s not a gesture they’re used to.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

I’m not opposed to women going after what they want — in fact, I encourage it…..but there’s a smart way to go about what you want, and one that doesn’t work. If you’re looking for guys to be “grateful” because you paid for their dinner, then you should get involved in charity work where you can donate time, money and energy — for lots of good causes. But if you’re looking for a man to be your boyfriend — and more, your best bet is to use your power as a woman and that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t have a plan — it means you have to have a plan that’s not so obvious so that HE feels like he is in charge of the date because men LOVE feeling like they’ve chased a woman and won her over.

That said — if you’re in a relationship and you want to treat him now or then, make him cookies, buy him a great gift, or cook him a fabulous dinner, go for it! 😀 But[i] as a rule[/i] I believe that women should let men ask them out and take them out so they know where they stand and don’t feel confused about whether he likes you — or whether he’s just grateful for dinner! 😀

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