[Dreamermi]

Me and my boyfriend have been together for two years, I know he loves me, he treats me really well, shows me off, and I’ve met the family and get on really well with them. However he is also a massive flirt and all our major issues are to do with him having inappropriate conversations with other girls, (one time being an ex). Just the other day when I had his phone a girl was sending him selfies on whatsapp I asked him why she was comfortable to do that and decided to look at some of their convos, which didn’t go back very far because he had deleted them, once again the conversation was inappropriate and she mentioned something about him making her cum, he then admitted that they had once ‘sexted’. He’s been very apologetic, telling me he’s going to make it up to me and how much he loves me, I’ve told him that I can’t put up with it anymore and he’s asked that I give him one more chance and if anything ever happens remotely close this I should leave him. Should I give him another chance?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Being a massive flirt doesn’t necessarily have to impact the relationship — but if or when his flirting makes other women think there’s more to be had beyond the flirtation itself, or when he wants there to be more than just the flirtation with these other women — then there’s a problem. I’m not sure from your post if the sexting he did with one woman happened before the two of you were together, or during the time the two of you were together. That makes a difference. 😉 If it was prior to your relationship with him, I think you should let it go. But if it was during, and after the first six moths of your relationship, then I think you have to understand that he doesn’t take the relationship he has with you, as seriously as you do. If you do write here again, let me know your ages. That always helps my advice. Sometimes younger men aren’t as interested in a long-term, committed relationship as women their same ages are. And knowing where he is in terms of the relationship he has with you, will help you decide what to do next. He may have introduced you to his family and friends, and called you his girlfriend, but if he’s not acting like you’re his girlfriend with other people, like these women, then his relationships with these other women will be a big clue as to his true feelings about things with you. If this is the first time this has come up in this way, I’d give the relationship a little time, but use the time to be clear on what you want, and get clarity on what he wants — and then see if you’re compatible.

Let me know if you have any other questions or if you want to “talk” anything else through.

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[Dreamermi]

Thank you for getting back to me, I’m 24 and he is 29. He often talks about the future and getting married and having children. The other women he flirts with or talks to inappropriately are always aware that he is in a relationship and who I am. Unfortunately these incidents have all being during our relationship and the sexting incident he admitted was after a year of our relationship, but he has been talking to her since, and I’ve only just found out about it all. I think you’re right about taking some time out. 🙄

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Since he’s 29 years old, and the sexting incident was after the two of you were dating for a year, I think you have to consider the fact that he’s really not that ready for a committed, monogamous relationship with you. 😕 When a guy says one thing, and acts differently, his behavior wins out when you’re trying to figure out what’s really going on. Be careful not to blame these other women. This isn’t their fault. He’s the one with the girlfriend, and he’s the one who’s behavior you should be concerned about. There will be many women and tempting situations throughout life, and you can’t control that — but you can try to choose someone who’s interested in loyalty and monogamy if that’s what you want. I’m thinking, since your most recent post, that this isn’t going to be what you want it to. 😥

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[Dreamermi]

🙁 thanks for your help

[April Masini, your AskApril]

You’re very welcome. 🙂

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