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I am 22 years old and have been with my boyfriend for 6 months. He is 24 years old and has two children by two different women. His kids are 4 years old and 4 months old. We met when his second baby mother was pregnant. At that point i wasnt trying to be in a relationahip with him but then we began to spend a lot of time and we just fell for each other. Fast forward to today we have already hit major bumps in the road. I catch him lying so much its rediculous. First let me say that we practically live together. Alot of his clothes and other belongings are at my house and he spends the night pretty much every night. One particular night, however, he didnt spend the night. He made up some excuse about not feeling well and that he was going to just stay home. Well later that night i drive to his house and his car isnt there. So i drive to his second babys mother house and what do you know, his car is there! The next day after me breaking up with him over him continiously lying about where he was he finally admitted that he was there and that she had to take the baby to the doctor and needed to use his car while he went to work. He said he spent the night so he could spend time with his baby. I didnt know what to believe but i stayed with him anyway. He also said he lied about it because he knew i would be upset. There has been other occasions where she had his car for whole days while he is with me but he lies and says his mom has the car. Another thing is he wont answer the phone when she calls him in my presence. And he wont answer when i call and hes with her. It clearly seems like they could still be messing aound but he always says that they are over and there is nothing between them and that they are just friends for his daughters sake. Furthermore i do alot for him financially so could he just be using me but is really trying to work it out with her? But then i wonder why is he always with me and not her. Its crazy because he flipped out about my daughters father textin me at 2 in the morn tellin me where he wanted me to drop my daughter off to him, my boyfriend was trying to text him back from my phone and flipped out when i wouldnt let him. Yet hes the sneaky one and who lies and doesnt answer my calls when hes with her. The sad part is I love him but is that enough? One last thing i want to add is that he is a family man and a big believer in living in the same home with his children so i know if they were still together then he would be there with her and his infant child. I need advice. Should I leave? Does it sound like Im going to get nothing but heartache?

[Ask April Masini]

Don’t just leave — run! This guy lies to you. He’s cheating on you. He’s got way too much baggage that he hasn’t reconciled. And you’re supporting him financially. This is not Mr. Right. In fact he couldn’t be further from Mr. Right.

You need to find a way to feel that you want to be with a man who treats you well — and until you do, you’re going to keep falling in love with men who treat you poorly like this one is.

Try reading Think & Date Like A Man, [url]http://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/think-and-date-like-a-man.html[/url], so you can understand how to find, get and keep MR. RIGHT!

I hope that helps. Let me know how things go — I’m rooting for you!

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