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To make an incredibly long story short:

Ive been seeing this guy for almost 3 years..though we were never officially a couple, we spent every day together, we lived together and we initially fell in love with each other. After a year and a half, the relationship ended and we went 6 months without speaking. We get back in contact and continue a physical relationship. Soon after that, he goes to jail for 6 months. During his jail time, we wrote and talked on the phone. He wrote me letters about how sorry he was and how much he loved me and always will. When he was released, we got back into our physical comforts but its starting to rub me the wrong way. I want to know where we
are heading..if anywhere. I want to get out because its been so long with no commitment, but i dont think hes going to give me one either way. i stood by him for so long and have yet to get anything in return.. how can i walk away from this?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Breaking up with a man who isn’t offering a woman a commitment, when she wants one, is a lot harder to do than you’d think. Simply said, all you have to do is cut off contact. Don’t take phone calls, e-mails or visits from him. That’s the very easy way to get him out of your life. But for most women that’s very hard to do. Ideally, I advise women not to get into a relationship with a man who isn’t on the same page as she is, because this kind of situation happens soooooo often, and it’s harder to get out of a relationship where you’ve wasted years of your time with Mr. Wrong than it is to pick wisely and prudently up front.

While it’s very hard for me to understand how you could live together and spend every day together for the better part of three years, and not call yourselves a couple 😯 , it’s harder to understand how you can spend six months not speaking to him, then six months waiting for him to get out of jail, and now you’re even CONSIDERING the difficulty of breaking up.

Use discipline. Stay busy. And read Think & Date Like A Man, [url]https://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/think-and-date-like-a-man.html[/url], so you don’t fall into the same trap again.

Let me know how things go, and please follow me @AskAprilcom on Twitter, and on Facebook at this link: [url][/url].

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