[Oceanstar]

The story goes like this…. This guy and I met in high school and became really good friends. He really liked me – he even told me himself – but I had a boyfriend at that time. After nearly three years together with my boyfriend, things were not going well so we split up. The other guy and I became even closer, we went for a couple of dates and stuff and although I always liked him – it was an attraction thing…- we never got too serious. One because I was going to university in a few weeks time, and he was going back to his country….and two because I had just broken up with my ex…
During the next 5 years we barely made contact, maybe an email here and there… but not more. But this year we got back in contact and decided that it would be nice to meet up. I was going to Spain in summer – he lives in Spain- and he was going to come to the place I was staying to meet up. However, because of work, I could not go at that time and decided to go to to his place later in summer. I thought it would be nice to go on his birthday, so that is what I did. I stayed at his place in Spain for 4 days. He introduced me to his family and friends, we really had a good time. We talked a lot, specially about the time together in high school and all the memories… and he would tell me how he felt with me, and the feelings he had for me back then.
He would flatter me with words and I had a feeling that he still liked me by the things that he sometimes said. Like we went shopping on one of the days and talking about how guys feel when they go shopping with girls he said ” I don´t mind shopping. I really like your face when you look at clothes” or he was driving through a really rough road and I was talking, and he said ” Carry on (talking). I would look at you all the time but as you see I can´t now”. However…. I would not say anything to this things, I would just smile and stay quiet…. me and my insecurities… and instead of showing I liked him, I just played hard to get – really hard to get…
Nonetheless, we did sleep together, and when he kissed me and caressed me he did with such passion ( I don´t know if this means something…) and I also showed a lot of passion when we made out…
The worst thing was that because I did not know how to flirt / act with him, and I did not know what the meaning of us hooking up meant, I just put myself in a “defense mode”. The last day together we were talking about guys who shave the pectorals – I like guys with a bit of hair, but of course, it is not something that I demand in a guy – and when he was explaining why he did it, I came out with ” You see,that´s why me and you would never….” I don´t even know how that came out of my mouth!! But he just looked away and felt that that did not make him really happy….
A few months have passed since our meeting and we sent each other a couple of messages… but I feel he is not being the same with me as he was on those holidays… I want to tell him the real story… I want to tell him how I feel, but I don´t know if I should or how to do it…
All I keep thinking is how stupid I was and how I have let my insecurities take the best of me with someone that always cared for me… I care too and I would like to let him know… I really like him and would like for him to know that but I think I missed my chance… Should I let him know?
Many thanks in advance!!

[April Mașini, your AskApril]

Don’t tell him now — you’re living in different countries so there’s not a good chance of things working out — but instead, DO learn from your mistakes. 🙂 You’re very aware of what you don’t know. Now it’s time for you to close the gap between what you don’t know and what you do know you need to learn! 😉

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