[marie2342]

So I really, really, really like this guy, but I don’t know if he likes me. I am scared of ruining our relationship by saying anything about how I feel. He is basically my best friend and I value our friendship more than anything. We are both single. We are seniors at a university together and hang out basically every day. We share a lot of the same interests and passions, so that is what brought us together as friends in the first place.
I am not very good about flirting or being forward, even though I am an extrovert. I have been rejected and hurt by other guys in the past, so I am nervous about it happening again.
So I guess I am just wondering what to do because I am tired of not knowing how he feels. People are starting to wonder if we are dating and I honestly wonder if we are as well. Quite often I think to myself “his girlfriend should be doing this, not me”. Things like: driving him home, making him his birthday dinner, taking a walk, checking in on him after a test. I don’t want to take on the girlfriend responsibilities without the title.
Do I say something? What do I do? How can I show him that I want more than just friendship?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

[quote]How can I show him that I want more than just friendship?[/quote]

If you want more than friendship, then stop being his friend! 😉 You can’t act like his friend [u]and[/u] be his girlfriend. If you want to be his girlfriend you have to [i]act like a girlfriend.[/i] I know you said that you’re not comfortable flirting, but unless you’re willing to start flirting with him, you’re going to remain in this rut you’re in. You’ve made it very difficult for yourself to become a date or a girlfriend by being his friend, so change your own behavior, and that will give him the opportunity to change his. 🙂

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