I’m 23 and my boyfriend is 24. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost four months now. We have had our fair share of stupid arguments over small stuff, but we have gotten through them. Recently however, I went through my boyfriends phone and found out that he was verbally cheating on me which I guess some would call it emotional cheating. In the messages they sent pictures back and forth to each other, nothing sexual but it’s still the point that they were doing it. They were calling each other Hun, boo, and telling each other how they looked physically based on them sending pics like calling one another sexy, or handsome or cute. And my boyfriend was asking her inappropriate questions like he was wondering if she had a big butt, and saying things like they could possibly meet up for lunch. And he said something like he could use a massage and saying it would be nice to get a massage from her…just stuff you shouldn’t be saying while your in a committed relationship with someone. So when I finally confronted him about it, of course in typical guy fashion, they don’t know what you’re talking about, and then they go into denial like it didn’t mean anything or that it was nothing, then they flip the script like why were you even in my phone and then once he saw that either way he was still in the wrong the he started sayin his reason for doing it was because we were arguing at the time and he wasn’t thinking…mind you, these texts messages started March 4, and ended April 17. So it’s not like it was just one time. Who’s to say that they would not have continued had I not caught him. I just can’t get over it because it’s still so fresh. I’ve done nothing but been there for him, especially when his dad passed away last month. And it’s like that’s the thanks I get. Now he just keeps saying how truly sorry he is and he really didn’t mean it and she means nothing to him and how he loves me and wants only me and he knows it was wrong and blah blah. Idk. I really love and care about him and I’ve been through this before with an ex except my ex was sexting other girls. Do I feel like my boyfriend is truly sorry, yes, but maybe because he only got caught because like I said, had I not gone through his phone, I would have never known about it. He keeps begging me not to leave him and do I want to leave? No, but I refuse to be someone’s fool. Now granted by boyfriend is always spending time with me when he can and taking me out to eat and stuff and ever since we started dating he always made it very clear that I was what he wanted but I’m like he constantly tell me you want me but do everything else under the sun to lose me. I don’t get it. And I’m going away for the summer to go back to work in my home town and idk how we’re supposed to get through this summer. Anyways, any thoughts?
