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Hi April. I’ve been with my fiancé for 16 months. He’s very loving and understanding. At first our intimate relationship was very exciting. We don’t live together and only see each other on weekends because I’m dealing with custody issues. I don’t like it when he makes comments or actions of a sexual nature that make me feel like a piece of meat. Am I being too sensitive? I find it rude and he thinks there’s nothing wrong with this behaviour. He ends up getting upset with me because I don’t like it. Most recently I’ve been sick with a cold and when talking to him on the phone he said “I’ve got something that will help your throat”. Really? I’m sick and he makes a comment like that. Why do guys do this? My ex used to be like that too… It’s a turn off for me for sure.

[April Mașini, your AskApril]

First of all, all guys don’t do this. He’s crude. 😕 However, if this is the only problem you have with him, maybe you can ask him — not during a time when he’s making these comments — if he wouldn’t mind not saying these things because it makes you feel uncomfortable, not sexy. And…. definitely do tell him what he does that you like, so you’re not just giving him negative feedback, you’re also giving him positive feedback. In fact, lead with the positive and follow up with the negative, but try to tell him in a way that it’s not criticism, it’s just that you like it better when he says, X, Y and Z.

Let me know if that helps!

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