[carolinag13]

I recently broke up with my ex boyfriend. We were together for almost a year and came to fall in love with him and get so attached to him in every way. We were so happy and in love, but once 2015 came in, everything fell apart. I’m not even sure what happened. He once picked me up from work, it was so awkward I dont know why, so on our way to drop me off home, he said “I’m gonna start playing soccer thursday and fridays from now on”. I actually wasnt too happy just because he worked so much and was always tired and I knew him starting to play will just not give us time and he’ll start pushing to the side. So basically thats what had happened. He started playing and he started cancelling on me on days he would usually see me. There was also 2 times when I was at work, he randomly texted me saying he was confused and all this stuff. I immediatly called him to see what was going on, and he said he felt like he was too busy for me and I told him I understand everything you do, but I dont wanna lose you over this. & also I felt like my job was a big problem because of my shift hours. So I had made a decision to leave my job for him, just so we could work something out.
Well, 2 weeks after quiting, he became so distant. I felt like trash. He was not as sweet as before or nothing. I felt like I tried sooo much and he still didnt care. So, I had made up my mind and take the hardest decision and break up with him just because I felt in my heart he wants nothing with me. I texted him and told him I was done trying, I loved him and wish him nothing but the best. He after texts “your done?????” I said “yes your too busy for me, theres no time for me.” After he never texted me.

After a hard and depressing week, I got a text from him asking me how I’m doing and stuff, I replied normal and showed no emotion. He then after starts saying sorry for hurting me and he hopes one day we could be something again and starts being soo sweet. He offered to come the next day and talk, So I allowed it and when he came, it was so hard not to cry because I thought I had lost him. We actually didnt even talk, we just hugged and all he said was that he will be back soon!

All that was Monday, so tuesday I hear nothing from him. We were not officially back but I kinda thought he would still text me or something. So it was like until Thursday [today], and I texted him and called him and I did not receive anything from him.

So I dont know why he even came back if he had no intentions of starting over and being sincere on everything he had told me before seeing me that day. I feel humilated, I felt like it was a slap in the face just because I took time to hear him out and even having hopes for us. If someone can please reply. Thank you! 😳

[April Masini, your AskApril]

It sounds like you already did walk away. You broke up with him, after putting a lot of pressure on the relationship, and he may love you, but he’s probably relieved to be away from the drama. 🙁 I think that there are a couple of things you might want to consider for next time around, with someone new:

* Never quit your job for a guy you’re dating unless there’s an agreement and a commitment. I know you probably think you were sacrificing for the relationship, but I’m pretty sure he felt pressured by your quitting your job so you could spend more time with him. What was a selfless act for you was a scary thing for him.

* If a guy wants to spend two afternoons or evenings a week playing sports, you should be supportive of his wanting to do something for himself. Instead, you found yourself competing for his time, and that couldn’t have made him feel very good.

* If you want something from a guy, instead of demanding, or complaining, take a different tact. Be the girlfriend he wants to spend time with, not one who demands it of him.

I hope that helps. I know you’re hurt, and I hope you can get out and do some nice things for yourself.

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