[Anonymous]

Alright, I’m 19 and in the words of other women I’ve been around, I’m hot. But through out high school I decide to avoid dating and focus on stuff like schooling and athletics.

Well, here I come into college and wouldn’t you know I meet a girl who knocks me flat on my rear. But because of my inexperience I just spill my feeling for her after a few months of flirting. And she says “You’re hot, but I’ve been talking to another guy.” and her friends confirms this for me. So hurt, I decide to just try to keep in touch a bit with some texting here and there, nothing too much too often.

But I start getting bored and frustrated so I stop texting and get back into my old routine of just focusing on my fighting (MMA) and friends.

Well, this girl has now randomly called me twice in three days just to talk and see what’s up. And as of just an hour ago, she asked me to text her tomorrow (Which I guess I will do, don’t get me wrong, I still want this girl bad) and she also said I should come over sometime, (Not planning on doing that this weekend, i’m heading out of town with friends)

BUT, what I’m wondering, does this show her interest in me is still there and strong, and if so, how could I play this to help me win out in the end?

[Anonymous]

In many cases I know, those who put their focus on studies instead of “going study” are likely to become blindsighted by the first person that knock them off their feet later on down the road. In my opinion, don’t play all your cards when you first sit at the table…Get to know the players first. Know what you are looking for in that significant other and stick to those…If she’s already in a relationship with another but randomly calls or text you then most likely she’s probably upset or unhappy with the other guy…In the past, when my boyfriend would go out with his friends and I wanted to take my mind off calling him I would call another friend. Or when I was upset with him and our relationship wasn’t on good terms I would call my guy friends to receive comfort because I always knew they would give it. Continue being friends with her and see where it goes from there but take your time. Observe with your eyes and take precautions with your heart.

[Ask April Masini]

Don’t beat yourself up about not having a lot of experience. You sound perfectly normal for a 19 year old guy to me. Which is why you may not realize that this girl you like likes you, too! 🙂 She probably senses that you “spilled your guts” and your feelings to her, which is why she wanted to be honest with you that she is interested in this other guy — but she’s still interested in you, too. And she didn’t say she had a boyfriend. Just interest.

So, my suggestion to you is to go for it. Men have a history of chasing after the women they want, winning them over, and fighting any obstacle that comes their way. Short of pulling out your armor, a lance and your white horse, you should really consider not giving up just yet. She’s giving you clues that she wants you to go after her. Now, you have to understand that dating is competitive. It’s time for you to have your feelings, but not at the expense of your desire to win her over. If you want to date her, which it sounds like you do, if you can just get past your hurt at realizing you have competition, then do it.

If you’re interested in learning more, I’ve written a book called Date Out of Your League for men who want to win at dating. You may get a lot out of this book because you’re new to the game. It’s an easy read (way easier than your college course textbooks 😆 ) and you can finish it in a weekend or even a night. Download it here: [url]http://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/date-out-of-your-league.html[/url].

Let me know how things go — and good luck! 😀

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