[Anonymous]

i used to have the best boyfrieind until my friend got us into a huge misunderstanding and he dumped me . he realised he was wrong , he apologised and kept friendly contact. Then i met him in person when all our friends were hanging out. he looked really miserable and shy and could barely talk to me .then his friend (who happens to be my really close buddy) says he really likes me and says he told him th he made amistake. so ofcourse he begged me to take him back and i said yes. but the relationship isnt the same. before we broke up he was really outgoing and fun now he barely calls and when he does he barely has anything to say . we used to spend 45 mintues on the fone but now its like 2 minutes. we live really far away from each other so we cant hang out that often but when were in public he can barely hold my hand but when were alone he gets all cudddlly and sweeet.
i dont know what to do the relationshiip isnt the same. should i dump him or can this be worked out?
i dont get why he would ask me out if he didnt want to act like a boyfriend.
please HELP!

[Ask April Masini]

I don’t know how old you both are or how long you dated before your friend broke you up — and that would be really helpful! 😕 But from what you have written, it sounds like your boyfriend dumped you that first time for reasons that may have been his own. I know you said that your friend broke you up, but it’s hard for someone to make a guy do something he doesn’t want to do. Now that you’re back together, he’s not acting like he’s into you, so I think you have to accept that he’s losing interest.

Rejection hurts, but it’s actually a gift because it lets you know who is there for you to have and who isn’t. The worst thing that can happen in a relationship is to stay with someone who doesn’t want you and is wasting your time when you could be out there available and looking for someone who’s Mr. Right!

So accept this fizzling relationship for what it is — soon to be over — and cut yourself free enough to move on and find someone who makes you happy and who you make happy as well!

I hope that helps — please join me on Facebook. I’d love to see you there. Here’s that link: [url][/url]. 🙂

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