Confidence and a sense of humor are what appeal to many women. In fact, I know you’re a great looking guy, from your self-description, but even if you were just an average guy, having confidence and a sense of humor would hedge against your looks! It sounds like you’re on the right track, but you’d like to have some more experience. And the fact that you already had 7 dates from a dating site, is great. Don’t shoot yourself down so quickly. Many guys who are insecure can’t do that. So pat yourself on the back.
But don’t stop there!
There’s a book I wrote called [b]Date Out of Your League[/b], [url]https://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/tg/detail/-/0974676306/qid=1075191419/sr=1-1[/url], that you can buy, read and refer to, as well. That will help, and it’s more advice than I can give you here, but let me give you a few tips.
You’ve got a good job, and you probably eat lunch, so have lunch in places where you can meet women — whether it’s the office cafeteria, or a park on a beautiful day, or at a noisy restaurant where there are lots of singles. Women tend to eat healthy, so try juice bars, salad places — and strike up conversations, or ask for help figuring out wheat grass from quinoa. Coffee places are great places to meet women, and you’ve probably got one in your neighborhood you can walk to. Since you’re a musician, take your guitar — or whatever you play (please don’t say it’s a tuba), out on the front stoop or porch and play a little. Go to concerts in the afternoon, alone, where you may meet other women with similar interests. And always smile at 20 new women a day. Yup. I said 20.
I’m going to trust you’ve got good clothes, a good haircut, and you run, bike or do something athletic that’s interesting. Women run, bike and swim or play tennis, too — so invite someone you see at the track or the gym or the pool, to grab a glass of wine or dinner with you.
Basically, because you’ve asked a basic question, you have to extend yourself. Put yourself out there, and don’t be fearful of rejection. Believe me, it will come — and nobody will remember the times you struck out when you’ve found “the one”.
Hope that helps. If you have specific follow up questions, feel free to ask! 🙂
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