[tinkerbell91291]

I dated this guy for almost a year. We broke up once last April and got back together last July. Then he broke up with me this past November. From the time we had gotten back together in July, he acted different. He treated me badly and when I tried to break up with him, he threatened to commit sucide. He knew that was the only way I wouldn’t break off our relationship. He blamed me for everything that went wrong in his life. He got mad at me for everything I did and said. If I went to a friends house, he got mad. If I hung out with family, he got mad. He would never tell me anything and I found out he had been talking to other girls behind my back. He would talk to my best friend more than he would me and ended up asking if he could sleep with her. I look back and wonder how I put up with everything he did to me. I went back to him because I thought I loved him. But the month before we broke up, I was to the point I couldn’t stand him. I wasn’t even upset or heartbroken when he broke it off. He claims he loves me, but I thought love was always being open and honest. Was I wrong to stay in the relationship that caused my heart so much turmoil? Am I wrong that not even two months after he ended it with me, I’m attracted to another guy?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

[quote]Was I wrong to stay in the relationship that caused my heart so much turmoil? [/quote]

The answer is yes and no. Yes, you were wrong to stay in a relationship with someone who was not just incompatible, but he was also selfish, manipulative and there was no healthy future with him. No, you were not wrong to stay in it as long as you did, because there’s something about you that needed to learn a lesson from the experience. Now, it sounds like you have. And I’m VERY glad you’re out.

[quote]Am I wrong that not even two months after he ended it with me, I’m attracted to another guy?[/quote]

No! You’re ready to date again — but please, buy and read Think & Date Like A Man, [url]https://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/think-and-date-like-a-man.html[/url], a book I wrote for women who want to date WELL!! — [b]before[/b] you begin dating again. I think the book will help you make some good decisions in your dating life and maybe save you the heartache you just had with your most recent Mr. Wrong. 😉

I hope that helps. Please let me know how things go, and follow me @AskAprilcom on Twitter and on Facebook at this link: [url][/url].

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