[Stevelee74]

I am in a strange situation. We fell in love 5yrs ago, we moved in together and started a business together. After a year we stated to have problems. Both frustrated due to financial goals which led to relationship problems. Now she believes and feels we are just business partners. I would like to work things out but she doesn’t. She has an interest in someone else but nothing has developed(at least I don’t think it has). We still live together and work together and it kinda suck for both of us. We can not sell the business just yet otherwise we will take a big loss. The business has put food on the table but things are slaps and frustrating. We keep this a secret because we don’t want the customers to know, they still think we are this cute couple that works hard. We don’t want negative press while things are slow.

What should we or I do ?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

How old are the two of you?

[Stevelee74]

I am 44 and she is 28. We are bound together due to finances but I do believe we need to split up. Something she said I’m the short past but now realizes that our finances makes it hard for that. I also feel she is stressed more than me and at times is not her usual self.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Thanks for filling me in. 🙂 Your last post sheds a little new light on the situation — it sounds now like [i]you[/i] want to split up, but for some financial reasons you can’t. In your last post, that wasn’t clear — I thought you wanted to stay together. But since you know what you want to do, you have to simply look at the obstacles that are keeping you from your goal. 😉

I don’t know if you’re renting a place together or if you bought a place together, or how many months are left on the lease, if it’s a lease….. But, if you’re renting a place together, you can simply ask the landlord to let you out of the lease. If he or she won’t, ask if you can pay a penalty to get out of the lease early, instead. If he or she won’t do that, use any sublet clause in your lease to sublet the place so you can get out of it. If it’s a mortgage — then sell the place, or one of you buy out the other.

I hope that helps. If you have more questions, please fill me in with the details — it helps me help you! 😀

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[emilyover40]

If it wasn’t for the business, you wouldn’t be together. I think you both know that, though. For the sake of the business, I’m wondering if you can still work together, can you actually be friends? I think if your clientele sees that you both are friendly to each other and committed to your business, they’ll still see you as the cute couple. The worst thing you can do for your business is to fake it… customers have little tolerance for dishonesty in any form.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Excellent advice!

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