[johnny04]

Im 22 and my gf is 21 we had a very mature relationship and we both knew that we wanted to eventually get engaged and move forwards with our lives. We always talked about the future and everything was great. At the 3.5 year mark me and my girlfriend had some ups and downs. The last 3 weeks have been the worst we said we need some time and she wanted to figure herself out. I went 3 days without takling to her, then i txtd her and called her. She didnt respond to either of them so i wrote a love letter and took it to her house. We went for a walk, she read it, and i felt like we might get back together. We both agreed to still keep things slow. The last 2 days i found out that she was sleeping at her girlfriends house when she told me she was sleeping at home. I randomly showed up to her house to confront her about the situation and told her that honesty and trust will bring us back together but, she got mad at me and said we arent together and taking things slow so she doesnt need to tell me anything. She said she doesnt ask me about what i do and i shouldnt either. I still love her and i know she cares about me, but she says she wants to give it a serious amount of time without talking and when things cool off take things slow from there. I dont want to call her and txt her again for a while to respect her decision but i feel like she will just move on and forget about what we had. She knows i want to get back together with her, but i also told her i want her to get back with me only if its her decision not that im persuading her into it, because ultimately it would be pointless. What do i do? i want this relationship to work out. please help.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

It takes two people to make a relationship work, and one to leave it. I know you want her to want you, but she’s breaking up with you the best way she knows how. She doesn’t have the tools to just break it off, but by separating from you and not wanting communication with you, she’s ultimately ending the relationship.

It’s understandable that you think she’s taking a break because that’s what she told you, but the reality is, it’s winding down to a break up. My advice is not to chase after her. You’ve done that and it doesn’t work. She doesn’t want to hear from you, and as heartbreaking and difficult as that is for you, it’s time for you to move on.

I’m sorry that this probably isn’t what you want to hear, but I hope you’ll consider it.

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