Hi April.
I wrote in a little while ago regarding this guy I’m seeing. We have been talking for a few months now, it’s a long distance thing, he lives in Florida I live in Ontario Canada. Since we started talking we’ve only seen eachother once when he came up here for work but speak almost every day. Where he would text me almost every morning and a couple times during the day and we talk to eachother like we are a couple even tho we’re not in a committed relationship. He’s coming up again in two weeks for work where we had planned for me to go stay with him while he’s here which we were both excited for to see eachother. Now here is my dilemma. I speculate he is talking to other women as well. I guess technically he is allowed since we’re not in a relationship but seeing as I’m not like that it’s difficult for me to date other men as I have such strong feelings for him. I see other girls comments on social media and things like that to make me pretty sure that he is. And it really bothers me. But for the past Week about, I’ve noticed a change between him and I. I’ve noticed he’s a bit more distant towards me. Doesn’t text me in the morning anymore , doesn’t text me as often through out the day, maybe like once each day, I’ve sent him a couple pictures on snap chat where he used to respond to but the last two I sent I noticed he just looked at them and never replied to them with another picture or a text reponse. Told him a couple times I missed him where he just replied with a kissy face emoticon like sending me a kiss. The past few days hasn’t told me he missed me or was thinking about me where before he used to. He still texts me every day but once later in the day and just briefly. Send me a kiss emoticon and just a brief conversation and that’s it. Maybe will send me a picture of himself from the day but that’s all. I’ve been feeling in my gut that something is off and there is something wrong but afraid if I bring it up and ask him why things are different between us, it’ll make me look needy and bad and will push him away. He’s supposed to be coming up in two weeks. Should I step back a little and give him his space and wait to see him, maybe seeing eachother will make things better since its been almost 4 months since seeing him last? Or should I bring it up to him now and ask him what’s going on? Please help. I’ve been losing sleep over this the past few days and have anxiety. I haven’t even heard from him all day today and that’s not really normal. Usually I’ll hear from him at least once but today nothing even though he’s been online social media and chat apps. I’m really scared to lose him but worrying maybe he’s pulling away.
