[Teejay]

My relationship will be 2yrs next month. Its a fair one as we have our great moments and trying times of which she had to raise her hands at me a couple of times whenever we had issues. I cant really blame her cos of she’s kind of emotional cos of her recurring health condition. Now that we’re 2yrs,she’s 28 and wants to get married. Apart from her health condition wc I think its responsible 4her effectiveness in handling issues, I lost my job about 6mnths ago. I can hardly take care of myself now not to talk of thinking about marriage. The truth I cant even see myself getting married next yr. She could wait if i ask her to but I cant say when. Its clear 4rm her behaviour to me that she’s not happy cos of this. How long can I afford to make her unhappy? What do I do cos I cant just get married when i’m still trying to find my feet financial wise. Should I tell her to consider her ex who’s still insterested in her? She deserves to be happy and I need time to get myself off the ground.

[Ask April Masini]

You’re not the one who’s making her unhappy. 😮 She’s doing it all by herself.

Your logic about not marrying when you’re not financially stable is very sound. If she doesn’t get that then there’s something wrong with her. Stay your course — you’re right.

As for her “having to raise her hands at you” — what’s THAT about?! 😯 I’ve never heard of a health condition that results in violence. You should not stay in any relationship that is violent — regardless of the reason. If you want to fill me in a little, I can comment more, but for now, this relationship sounds like it’s headed for a break up — only I think you’re the one who’s going to have to do the breaking up. 😳

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