[Gerald23]

Hi April,
I’m Gerald 23 and I’ve been dating my girlfriend for like eight months. Everything is okay but sometimes I catch myself wondering if what we have is really “healthy.” We get along, have fun and care about each other but sometimes even small misunderstandings blow up or one of us feels like unheard.
I want to make sure that the relationship we’re building is strong. and not just goin along cause we like each other. I’m trying to figure out what habits, communication and boundaries actually make a relationship healthy.
My question is, What does a healthy relationship even look like in real life and how do you know if you’re actually in one?

[Arslan]

Hi
Eight months is the time when a person takes off the mask of best behavior, and now the real personality is coming out. You said that misunderstandings “blow up”.
Brother, if there is a world-shaking fight over a small matter, then it is not communication but “ego war”.
A healthy relationship does not mean that there is no fighting, but how the fight is solved. If, after every fight, you just say “sorry” and move on without solving the problem, then you are sitting on a pressure cooker.
You should have a serious meeting instead of being passive-aggressive. If the matter still blows up, then understand that it is less “healthy” and more “headache”.

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