[Mackielb]

I matched with a guy on tinder last August and since then we have been texting yet we hadn’t met up. I put it down to the fact he doesn’t live in the same city but he’s not too far away to travel and does work in my city mom-fri.
Anyways, we finally met on Monday when we went to the same gig in another city and I went to his hotel to have after drinks with him and his mate. Now my intention was to go there to finally meet him but I ended up staying over and having sex with him. Although it was very intimate and lots of cuddles and kisses after so it didn’t feel like a random hook up.
I left the next morning to go to my hotel and just said bye, no kisses or anything but i put that down to his friend being there. So last night he was again in my city on a night out and I was out so we were in different pubs but met up after at his hotel and we spooned and kissed all night but no sex but maybe that coz his mate was in the room then in the morning I had to leave.
I just want to know what actually is going on between us. Because I feel happy seeing him but I get confused and it gets me down. The two times I’ve seen him he’s held me like he likes me and keeps kissing me. All of our texts have and are never sex related- they are general cute banter etc
And some mates are saying things like oh it sounds like friends with benefits but I really don’t think it is- the way he acts seems more intimate and I don’t get sex texts at 3am asking for sex. But I’m confused if he likes me or not.
I’m going to travel to his city on Monday and hopefully I will see him for a few hours alone without his friends this time at a normal hour. I really like this guy- help me understand

[Clara]

Tinder is a hook up site. And that’s what he’s doing with you: hooking up. Not dating. Not trying to have a relationship. Just hooking up.

You want it to be more, and you’re trying to imagine it’s more, so you’re saying that you’re confused, but the reality is that if you meet a guy on any website, and he doesn’t contact you for six months, he’s not that into you. If you meet him on Tinder and he doesn’t contact you for six months, it’s because he’s hooking up with other people. If you have sex with any guy you meet on Tinder on the first date, you’re hooking up. When the second “date” with a guy you meet on Tinder means you have to go to his hotel — he’s not that into you. If he was, he’d take you out to dinner, a movie — make you feel like you’re special and on a date. He didn’t. He spent the night with you — and his friend in the same room 😕 — spooning. If you’re going to be in his city Monday, and he hasn’t asked you to go on a date with him and it’s already Saturday, he’s not that into you. Bottom line: he likes you — as a hook up. He’s not into having a relationship with you.

I hope that clears things up and helps you figure out what you want to do next. 😉

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