[AnonymousSJ408]

Hi April,

So about 2 months ago me and this girl started dating. It was great. We hit it off and everything was going so well. About a little after a month, things took a turn. I became a little to overwhelming for her and didn’t give her enough personal space (bad on my part). She’s a Sagittarius and I’m a Gemini. Early on, I should have known and respected that. I guess I made her feel confined and fenced in this relationship. About 3 weeks ago, she decided that she isn’t ready to be in a relationship right now and just wanted to be able to have her own personal space. She’s an independent girl and never had a relationship where someone was always there with her.

Even though she ended it a couple weeks back, we still talk, text and hang out everyday, just not as a couple. Nothing intimate, but we still go out to dinner together and have long conversations into the night. She knows I’m still interested in her and that I still want something, but I am respecting her decision and I am not forcing anything on her. I made it clear that if she were to ever want something again, than I’m here and that I’d respect her space and privacy and I’d be more giving of that to her.

I guess that advice I’m looking for is, what should I do? Do you think that there can still be something between me and her? I really want to have something with her. Am I wasting my time?

Thanks,
AnonymousSJ408

[April Masini, your AskApril]

You’re in the friend zone, and she’s still interested. Time for you to make a move and reclaim your status as a date! Stop seeing her as a friend and communicating with her as a friend, and tell her you want to take her out on a date and give things another try. Tell her you’ve learned your lesson, and you want her so much that you’ll back off even when you don’t want to. And see what happens! If she agrees to date you, then go for it — with your lessons learned. And if she doesn’t want to date you, then you have to back off and find the exit door. Otherwise, you’re going to be wasting your time and energy with someone who doesn’t want to date you, when others out there, who do, will be missed. It’s hard to date other people and be really single, when you’ve got a friend zone prospective — so see if she’ll date you and if not, find someone who will.

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