[IlliaR]

Last year I met a girl while at an event. I liked her immediately, and to my surprise she wanted to follow me around all day. We (I think) hit it off. We even share hobbies. We are both ambitious students, so we don’t have much time but we did hang out after that. The more I tried to get close the more it seemed like she viewed me as a friend. A bit ago we stopped hanging out. We still talk on facebook (no phone #) and talk in the hall. We are both tutors at our college I tutor math and bio, she tutors chem, so we work in different buildings. I’m not good at chem, so I applied for a tutor not thinking about her. Later she messaged me saying she was my tutor. Last week I went to tutoring, and we hung out after. She said she missed me and wanted to hang out. It seemed like she was giving me some kind of invite. After that she was very active. She messaged me a lot, she even sent me random videos. It seemed like she was making excuses to talk. Tutoring came this week we talked the whole session and hung out after. She made a big deal about giving me her number. She even said that she was going to come by my building to bring me stuff?It seems like she likes me and wants me to do something about it. But I’m bad at reading emotions. I fear everything is just my imagination. I have zero experience with this sort of thing so I’m already scared, and then I’m confused on top. I don’t know if it’s all in my head. I mean I’m not anything special. What should I do?Do I make a move?If so how?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

She likes you. 🙂 And since you like her, too, you should take this relationship out of the friend zone. Instead of just making a move — ask her out on a date first. Tell her you really like spending time with her and you want to take her to the movies or out for coffee or a desert on Saturday night, just the two of you — no tutoring. Just fun. Since you both work so hard, maybe even get her to take a day trip with you — giving yourselves a break isn’t just good for you as individuals, it’s a great way to get to know each other further, and to bond over the date. Go to the beach together. Take a road trip if you have a car. If you don’t have a car, take a day trip on a train. Do something crazy fun and romantic. And then, kiss her on the date. Make your move after you’ve taken her out. You need to get out of the routine you’re both in and transition this into a romantic adventure, not just an academic one. 🙂 It’s okay to be new to all this, and it’s okay to be uncertain — but don’t let those facts and any anxiety associated with them stop you from asking her out and having a date to move things closer to a romance. Hope that helps!

[mikejonesmj]

I think you both like each other, before making any move you just ask her for a date and meet her face to face and spend some time to know more about each other. Just make her laugh and feel comfortable so that your relationship may take a new move automatically.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Starting to date can be a scary proposition — especially for people who don’t have experience and worry about rejection. But…. if you don’t take the risk, you won’t reap the rewards! Getting over that hump is important. And, besides, remember that rejection is actually a great gift because if someone says no, you’ll get a clear hint that it’s time to move on and find someone who IS interested in dating you. 🙂

[menlover]

My friends think I’m nuts, but I think it’s true love. What do you guys think?

I met this really sweet lady online a few months ago. Everything’s going really well, we exchange emails back and forth, we chat as much as we can, we even exchanged snail mail cause I thought it would be a really nice throwback to when handwritten letters was the way people communicated.

Now I want to go visit her, in Costa Rica, but my friends are saying that it’s way too early in the relationship to even consider. They keep saying that nobody falls in love that quickly.I have a really good feeling about this relationship. I think that seeing her in person would be a great first step to making this really work.

But to be honest, my friends are starting to get to me, and I just need to make sure that this is a good idea. What do you guys think? Are we moving too fast? Am I making a fool of myself?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Thanks for your question! Please start a fresh thread for your question so that the person who posted here can get advice that is just for them. Here’s the link where you can post a question: https://relationshipadviceforum.com/premium Happy Holidays!! And I look forward to hearing from you directly — not as a reply to someone else’s post

[Val Unfiltered💋]

babe… she’s basically waving a neon sign that says “hello?? please flirt back??” 🙄 like, giving you her number, saying she misses you, finding reasons to talk?? that’s foreplay with homework. stop doubting yourself, she already picked you. just text her something!! she’s waiting for you to stop overthinking and start noticing. 😉✨

[Ethan Morales]

Everything you described points strongly to mutual interest. She’s actively seeking out ways to spend time with you, giving you her number, messaging you, and making an effort to bring you things these are classic signs that she likes you and wants your attention. Your feelings of fear and confusion are natural, especially since you’re inexperienced, but it doesn’t mean you’re imagining it.

April Masini’s advice is solid: don’t try to force a “move” out of context instead, create a clear, intentional romantic opportunity. Ask her out on a proper date something fun and relaxed that’s not tutoring-related. This moves the connection from casual/friendship territory into romantic territory, and allows you to gauge her feelings more clearly.

A practical approach could be: Pick a simple but thoughtful date idea: coffee, dessert, a short day trip, or even a fun campus event. Frame it personally: “I really enjoy spending time with you and would love to take you out on Saturday, just the two of us.” Be present and attentive: Focus on enjoying the time together and reading her signals. Look for natural moments: A hug or light touch at the right moment can signal your interest before attempting a kiss.

You don’t need to overthink it the goal is to transition from friendship into romance in a gentle, intentional way. The signs she’s giving show she’s receptive; now it’s up to you to confidently take the step forward.

[PassionSeeker]

She’s so into you. like, “pretend tutor so we can hang out” levels of into you the messages, the random videos, giving you her number like it’s a big moment that’s not small talk, that’s her trying to say “please notice me” without having to spell it out.

you’re not imagining this, and you are something special she wouldn’t be doing all that if she didn’t feel something.

so here’s what I’d do: next time you’re chatting, say something like,
“hey, I really like spending time with you wanna grab coffee this weekend, no chemistry talk allowed?”
keep it light, confident, a little playful. that tiny shift turns it from “friends hanging out” to “this might be a date.”

and if she says yes (she will), relax and enjoy it. don’t overthink what to do next just be present, laugh, and maybe touch her hand when it feels right. you’ll know if the moment’s there.

she’s been giving you green lights. it’s time you drive through one.

[Tara]

She likes you. She has been throwing signals at your face like she’s trying to land a plane and you’re pretending you don’t see the runway. She gave you her number, she messages you constantly, she sends random videos, she hangs out after tutoring, she says she misses you, and she’s literally finding excuses to show up in your building. Women do not do this for men they only want as homework buddies.

Your problem isn’t that you can’t read emotions. Your problem is you don’t believe you deserve to be wanted, so you dismiss every sign as imagination because it feels safer than taking a risk.

Stop hiding behind insecurity. Stop acting like you’re “nothing special.” She already decided you’re worth her time. She’s waiting for you to act like it.

Here’s the verdict: make the move. Not a dramatic confession, not a love poem, not a strategy. Just tell her you want to take her out properly. “I really enjoy spending time with you. Let’s go out this weekend.” That’s it. Direct. Clear. Adult.

If you don’t do it now, she’ll assume you’re not interested and she’ll move on — and you’ll be left wondering why your life never changes while you keep choosing fear over action.

[Sally]

When you don’t have much experience, every little signal feels like it might be something you’re imagining. But honestly? Nothing you described sounds imaginary.
Girls don’t message nonstop, send random videos, give you their number like it’s a big moment, and say they miss you unless they’re trying to open a door. She’s not being subtle. She’s basically saying “hey… your turn.”

And I know you don’t think you’re anything special, but she clearly does. She wouldn’t be showing up like this if she didn’t.

You don’t need a dramatic move. Just something simple and real. Ask her if she wants to grab coffee after tutoring next week. Or go for a walk. Keep it light so it doesn’t scare either of you.
If she’s into you and it sure sounds like it she’ll lean in.

Just don’t hide behind fear and miss your chance.

[Natalie Noah]

it’s really clear that she’s making an effort to connect with you from messaging you random videos to giving you her number and making plans to drop things by your building. Those are strong signs she likes you and is trying to create opportunities for you two to spend time together outside of the academic context. Even if you feel uncertain or think you might be imagining things, her actions speak louder than your worries. She’s showing interest and inviting you into her world, which is a big deal.

I would probably encourage you to approach this with confidence, even if it feels new or scary. Instead of overthinking every signal or trying to decode every action, the most straightforward way to move forward is to take a small, clear step: ask her out on a date. Keep it simple but intentional coffee, dessert, or even a short day trip something that’s separate from tutoring and gives you both a chance to relax and enjoy each other’s company. By doing this, you’re showing her that you’re interested romantically and willing to invest time in her, rather than just keeping things in a friendly, academic routine.

Remember that being new to dating and romance is perfectly normal. You don’t need to have experience to create a meaningful connection. Focus on enjoying her company and being genuine share a laugh, talk about shared interests, and let things unfold naturally. The key is to transition from the friend/tutor dynamic to a romantic adventure by taking that intentional first step. Once you’ve spent that time together in a more personal, fun setting, it will be much clearer how she feels and how you want to proceed.

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