[kittyglitter]

To make a long story short, I am a single girl and I am pretty much always single. I’m clueless when it comes to dating and relationships. Well, this past weekend I was a bridesmaid at my friend’s wedding. She lives in another state. While at the reception the best man approached me and started talking to me. We talked for a while and got along very well. He asked me how long I would be in town and I had to answer honestly, that I was leaving the following day. Without realizing we were connecting another guy approached us and interrupted our conversation and I didn’t get to leave things with him like I wanted to.

When I got back, I friended him on FB and sent a message, “Thanks for the add. It was nice meeting you, the wedding was nice” and he replied, “I really enjoyed meeting you too. I’m glad you had fun” so after that I made a bit of a sad attempt to continue with the contacting but didn’t hear from him. I also posted on a status of his. I asked my friend if she could mention me to him and she agreed she would definitely do that. In person he seemed so interested but online is tough. What are some tips on how I can attempt to take it further?

[AskApril Masini]

I’m not sure how old you are, but you should probably invest $8.99 😉 in the book I wrote for women like you. It’s called [b]Think & Date Like A Man[/b], and you can get it here: [url]https://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/think-and-date-like-a-man.html[/url]. It’s going to help you a lot more than I can here.

But I can give you a few tips here that won’t help as much as the book will, but they’ll get you going. 😀 The message you sent him was polite, but flat. It wasn’t flirty and it doesn’t appear, on the surface, to be sent by someone who is interested. It could just as easily have been sent by parent of a friend, a business colleague or pretty much anyone with good manners. If you’re interested in dating the guy, you’ve got to let him know by flirting with him. I’m not suggesting you chase him, but I am suggesting you give the guy something to go after! Compliment him. Tell him the wedding wouldn’t have been as memorable, had you not met him. Tell him he was the cutest guy there. Get it? 😎 In fact, you can tell him that if he wants to dish, or hear more about how blue his eyes are, he should contact you by e-mail or phone. 😉

Hope that helps!

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[kittyglitter]

Thanks for the reply. I’m 25 and he is 30ish. I’m just worried about coming off too strong and sounding creepy or stalkerish haha.. Probably my own insecurities coming into play there.

[AskApril Masini]

Flirting is a far cry from stalking. 😉 And as you practice flirting, you’ll learn when to moderate it and when to turn it up. 😀

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[kittyglitter]

Thank you for the replies! It has been about a month since I met this guy at the wedding and I am traveling back to his area in a couple of weeks. We have kept in touch and talk on a regular basis (every few days) and when we do talk its for a while, for hours. The other night we talked and he admitted he wanted to hang out with me after the wedding but felt uncomfortable asking me because he didn’t want to impose and we had just met. I admitted I was in the same boat that night. He knows I am coming in a couple of weeks and we talk about it but haven’t made any concrete plans. I think he is nervous and shy (not a lot of experience with girls). Should I wait a little longer before making concrete plans with him? I don’t know the area very well so I’m not sure how to ask. I really like this guy and don’t want to lose the opportunity to hang out with him because we are both shy lol.

[AskApril Masini]

I don’t [i]usually[/i] recommend people buy my books on this forum, but occasionally, someone asks questions that are very basic, and I [u]know[/u] that they’ll benefit from buying and reading one of my books. I suggested, back in February, that you buy [b]Think & Date Like A Man[/b], and read it!! I don’t think you did, because of the questions you’re asking, so I’m going to suggest again that you buy the book and read it — it’s going to answer your questions, as well as support this free advice site. It’s only $8.99 and you can get it electronically and start reading tonight! Here’s the link: [url]https://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/think-and-date-like-a-man.html[/url]. I think it’s going to help you a lot!

As for your question — you’re asking me if you should do something I [b]never[/b] recommend — which is asking a guy out on a date because he hasn’t asked you out. 😕 The answer is no. Definitely not. If he wants to date you he will. And if you take the opportunity to ask you out away from him by asking him out first, you’re going to continue to be confused about the situation.

I think it’s fine you’re keeping in touch, but spending hours on the phone with him, a couple of times a week, when he hasn’t ever asked you out on a date, isn’t a great use of your energy. You’re getting too invested in someone who may not be that interested in you. 😉 And it’s taking you away from feeling single and meeting other men who [i]are[/i] interested. I know you want to date him, but in the big picture, you shouldn’t want to date someone who isn’t into you because you’ll end up hurt, and will waste time and energy.

I hope that helps. 🙂

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