[Avery Yvonne]

My husband and I have been together for almost 8 years. Because we’ve been together for a long time, I feel like the excitement is gone whenever we come home from work. Unlike before we used to go on dates and hang out with friends before going home. Now, it feels like our relationship has become boring. I’m afraid that one day my husband might say that he’s no longer happy with me. We have been arguing more often even small things and none of us wants to lower our pride, maybe because we both tired from work. I want us to go back to how things were before when we still had time to go out and enjoy each other’s company. What should I do to save our relationship? How can I prevent my husband to become unhappy with me and feel that I’m boring?

[Abegail]

If time is the problem, then you need to set aside at least one day a week for just the two of you as a married couple. That way, the excitement can slowly come back. You can go out of town, visit the beach, and do things like that—even just for one day. Then make it a weekly bonding habit.

[Nicole]

Honestly, that’s normal in a long relationship because after being together for a long time, it’s natural that there are moments when you both start to feel bored or “used to” each other.

I think what you need is to talk to each other and make time for quality moments together so you can bring back the excitement. Also, take care of yourself—make yourself look good, feel confident, maybe try going to the gym. That way, you can attract your husband’s attention again and bring back the spark in your relationship.

[Ricky]

I think you should talk to him first. If you want to bring back the sweetness you used to have, both of you need to want that for it to work.
A relationship improves when the effort is mutual. If you’re the only one thinking about it and trying to make it happen, your efforts may not lead anywhere. That’s why it’s better to have a calm and honest conversation with him about it, so you can understand each other and avoid unnecessary arguments.

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