[Anonymous]

I am going to send this guy a message over facebook to see if he is interested in me (I know I should do it in person, but I don’t have the opportunity to do so). So anyways, I would prefer not to use the word crush, love or like if possible. I want to tell him I am interested in him and ask if he ever felt the same. We don’t know each other very well, but I have sensed something between us(major eye contact and some other signs, been going on for a year, only talked a few times). Any help is appreciated! I just cant seem to come up with the right wording. I want to just find out if he is interested. I dont want to ask him to do something straight out. Thanks (We are both seniors in highschool)

[imustbeparanoid]

I think a direct approach is best…try to keep the situation non-serious.

Get a group of you going together somewhere and see if you can just spend some time talking to him. “Hey, a few friends of mine and I are going to go do X this weekend, want to come along?” (Mixed company best.)

*Don’t* use words like ‘love’ (yet) – even if you’d like to. Spend some time around him to see if the spark you feel is only in your head.

…or forget the subterfuge: Just ask him if he’d like to go to a movie or something. He’ll get the idea you’re interested. Guys are fairly easy to trap like that. 😀

Good luck.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

I don’t think it’s a good idea for you to ask him if he likes you — it’s a lot better to use his behavior not his words as a gauge for his feelings. If he likes you, you’ll know it because he’ll ask you to hang out or go on a date with him. It’s a bad idea for women — even young women who are high school seniors — to ask men out on dates. It’s a lot better to let the young men do the chasing, so if you like him, compliment him and flirt with him — I guarantee it’s a much better way for you to let him know you’re interested than coming out and bluntly being the aggressor and telling him you like him, and asking if he likes you.

I hope that helps!

[Jessica Jezzy]

I think you can keep the message simple so it doesn’t overwhelming to both of you, like tell him you really enjoyed the moment you talked but don’t ask if he feel the same. just keep it casual so it will be easier for him to respond.

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