[meshell2699]

IN NEED OF MAJOR ADVICE: Ok here i go. Me and this guy have been fooling around for 7 yrs. On Aug 8 i gave birth to his twins. The problem is he just got out of relationship and all along im the other. He talks about having kids. So im thinking that by him now talking kids i figured he was wanting something more in our relationship. So about a month ago i told him that i didnt want to see him anymore. He asked why? And i told him cus apparently he dont know what he wants. He in reply says”I just got out of a relationship. and im not tryna rush into anything.” WHAT!!! You not tryna rush into anything?? I just had your twins.. I felt like somebody punched all wind out of me and i just went numb all over. And like i told him”People our age jus dont have kids just to have them. Im 35 and He’s 34 People our age are in the settling down living life and enjoying life. when you settle down with someone then when ready talk kids I asked him” What am i fighting for. If he not willing to fight too. His reply to that was.” Let it flow in.” Which means to Let love grow or Just let things happen.. But i feel that we have been together for 7 yrs. And. He hadnt figure out nothing i feel so damn stupid… And i feel like he should have said all of that before talking kids and i wiouldnt feel like he f’d up my life and stuff. And now i just dont know what to do. Im soo hurt and its tearing me apart soo bad inside.. SOMEBODY PLZ HELP!!!!

[April Masini, your AskApril]

If you’ve been the other woman for 7 years, I’m not sure why you suddenly thought he’d change. 😳 And if all you’ve been doing is “fooling around” for 7 years, again, I’m not sure why you think anything was going to be any different. He’s made it very clear he doesn’t want marriage or monogamy. If you do, I’m not sure why you think he’s going to give it to you, now, when he’s been so clear that he’s not interested in it. That’s why my advice is to that you get a child support agreement with him, and if you can’t, go to court and get an order for him to pay support and see his kids on a regular schedule. Then you need to get your personal life together and be a mom to your kids.

When you’ve got all that under control, if you feel ready to date, read Think & Date Like A Man, [url]https://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/think-and-date-like-a-man.html[/url], the book I wrote for women who want to find, get and keep Mr. Right, and learn how to date so next time around, you don’t waste time or energy on someone who isn’t the wrong guy. 😥

I know you’re upset, but you need to pick yourself up and turn your life around.

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