[asplinteredmind]

I have been dating this girl for just 5 months. I love this girl. However, the jealousy monster is alive and well with me. Her best friend is a man. She told me from the beginning that they never had a relationship in any way. She is also very close to an ex-boyfriend with whom she had a relationship of 4 years that ended quite some time ago, maybe 10 years. She is also very close to other single men. Here is what happened in the months since we met…

The actual truth has been trickled out to me. She did have a relationship with her best friend – the exact details of the level of intimacy I still do not know and she is not very open with details. She had spent several evenings out with her ex of 4 years – including tonight as I write this. The first few meetings they had I didn’t find out about until well after they had occurred. Then I find out that when she speaks to her best friend, who is married, he always has to take the call outside because his wife might be OK with the conversations. She speaks to her best friend, her ex and others multiple times a week via phone, text or other method. And she even tags her ex on facebook multiple times a month. Another example that got the best of me was that she went out of town to meet one of her male friends to attend a concert. He lives in the town she went to. She tells me she has never had a relationship with him in any way. I asked her point blank if she was staying in the room alone and she said she was. I found out later that they stayed in the same hotel room for two nights.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

I think you already know what I’m going to say. Now that you’ve figured out who she is and who she’s seeing, and that she’s not upfront or honest about this, it’s time for you to move on. You’re looking for monogamy and she’s not. Since you’ve been dating for five months now, this is about the time when you decide if you want this relationship to be monogamous or not. It seems like she’s not ready and the dishonesty or the lack of disclosure, isn’t working for you. Time to move on, and be glad you didn’t invest more time in this one. Next! 😉

[Jake]

Hi!!!!
You call jealousy a “monster”? I call it “intuition.” Your mind is screaming at you that you’re being played, and you’re blaming yourself by calling it jealousy. Ghost it and upgrade your life. Show confidence; the world is full of girls who will appreciate your loyalty.
Ask April has given expert advice that you don’t waste more time. Five months is enough to realize that this girl is not trustworthy. Leave her and move on.

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