[Anonymous]

My girlfriend is very sweet she made me a CD of songs that reminded her of me and she has bought me the shoes I wanted , and she has even wrote me a poem she is very sweet and romantic. Well I always seem to mess up my relationships at one point or another and I have even told her none of my other girlfriends have stuck around why are you , and she said because I love you. Well I always make her seem like she isn’t doing enough you see I crave attention and I always say things to make her kind of reassure me that she still loves me and all , but this always seems to hurt her feelings when i say things to make her think she isn’t a good girlfriend, and she always gets mad. Once I even said something to make her feel unattractive and i feel like a jerk so why do i do this ? I always accuse her of cheating and I have a very bad temper, and have told her that any guy who messes with her will basically be beat up so whats wrong with me and how should I change before I lose this great girl she is getting fed up.She always feels guilty because she thinks that I think that she doesn’t love me enough and I guess thats what I make her think so please help!

[Ask April Masini]

This is so easy — for me to tell you! 😆 Much harder for you to execute.

Simply STOP sabotaging your relationships. You already know and are very articulate about what it is you do to drive her and others like her away. Since you know what you’re doing, the why isn’t that important. Just stop. Be kind. Be appreciative. Be grateful.

You may be able to keep getting women and abusing them and forcing them to leave you — but eventually that isn’t going to be the case. It may take years or not, but you’d be wise to clean up your act before you suffer the residual damage of your own behavior.

If you say something awful, apologize. If you can stop yourself from saying something awful BEFORE you say it, then you’re all the way there.

Trying to figure out why you behave the way you do is just a way to prolong changing your behavior. Be kind starting today, and you’ll improve your chances of her staying by 100 percent.

I hope that helps — let me know how things work out for you. And join me on Facebook. The AskApril.com on Facebook link is: [url][/url]. 😀

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