[txsunflower]

I am hoping for some help, I have been seeing this guy for a year and we were friends before us dating. We use to work together and he was adament that I not tell people we were dating. Well I finally left the company 6 months ago, but he still didnt want me telling people. I have never met his family or friends. We did go out to dinner sometimes but mainly stayed at his place. Well, I reactivated my facebook page last week and found he was posting pictures of him and another girl. I got upset and unfriended him and then called him to talk about it but got voicemail. He then “texted” me and said not need to talk and take care. He then said he was upset that I unfriended him and now will not respond to me at all.. I am so confused and I feel guilty now that I unfriended and now he has blocked me completely. Facebook means nothing to me, but I guess to him it means a lot. It appears he has just been using me right?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Right. 😳 You were a little something on the side that he wanted to keep on the down low, and if you’re willing to continue like that, he probably will be, too. But he didn’t treat you like someone he was proud of, by introducing you to family and friends, and whenever a guy is trying to keep his relationship with you quiet, you should immediately know he’s interested in you as something for fun (for him), but not for a serious relationship.

Your guilt is part of low self esteem that allows you to think you’ve done something wrong by de-friending him, when he’s treated you like a booty call all along. Decide that you deserve more, and the guilt will disappear. 😉

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[txsunflower]

Thank you.. I also just found out yesterday he just proposed to this girl the weekend after he was with me.. I am a fool for letting this man treat me the way that he did. I feel sorry for the girl he is about to marry. But I believe in Karma. I am trying to work on my self-esteem and I appreciate your honesty.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

You’re welcome. You can’t do worse than what you had, so you’re on your way up! 😉

My advice now, is that you read Think & Date Like A Man, a book I wrote for women. You can buy it here: [url]https://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/think-and-date-like-a-man.html[/url]. It’s going to help you stay on track when you start dating again, so that you don’t fall into the trap of being with Mr. Wrong. 🙂

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