[cindymay]

This is a hard one…I need help! A couple of months ago, I put an ad on a free dating website looking to date, with the intentions of a long-term relationship. This guy Brian responds. We meet, have a nice lunch, and a walk with his dog. He tells me to text him anytime if I want to get together again. I told him that I really liked him. For 2 months now we have been talking by text and as it turns out he has said in a round about way he is only looking for a friend with benefits. He will text me, and ask me how I am doing, then I won’t hear from him for awhile, and so one. I forgot to mention, we walked the dog at a beach by his house and I did see his house, no signs of another woman living there.

So, he kept suggesting he wanted to get together, he would cook me a nice dinner, have some wine…blah, blah….lol. Never happened. Today, I posted another ad on the dating website that said I am looking to date and see where it leads…or not!. He sent me a text and said “I see you posted another ad on the dating website. It sounds like you are looking for a friend with benefits. I don’t think you need to do that….not classy…”. The nerve!!! So I said “I appreciate your opinion..but why not? You are only looking for the occasional fling so I am not sure what the difference is? The fact that you are shopping on this website tells me that you are obviously looking for something that I don’t have so I am not sure why seeing the ad bothered you?” He has not responded. He was very deceitful as he responded to my ad for a long-term relationship knowing he doesn’t want one and he has the nerve to talk to me about class!! What is his problem? What should I do? Any insight about this? I don’t understand. He doesn’t want me, so why does he care?? And why does he keep texting me now and again??

Oh and I did tell him that I am not interested in a FWB.

Cindy

[April Masini, your AskApril]

If I were you, I’d ignore him. He’s clearly looking for a friend’s with benefits relationship and he keeps trying. You’re not interested in that, so just don’t respond. It will save your energy so you can invest in someone who is more appropriate! 😉

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