This is a hard one…I need help! A couple of months ago, I put an ad on a free dating website looking to date, with the intentions of a long-term relationship. This guy Brian responds. We meet, have a nice lunch, and a walk with his dog. He tells me to text him anytime if I want to get together again. I told him that I really liked him. For 2 months now we have been talking by text and as it turns out he has said in a round about way he is only looking for a friend with benefits. He will text me, and ask me how I am doing, then I won’t hear from him for awhile, and so one. I forgot to mention, we walked the dog at a beach by his house and I did see his house, no signs of another woman living there.
So, he kept suggesting he wanted to get together, he would cook me a nice dinner, have some wine…blah, blah….lol. Never happened. Today, I posted another ad on the dating website that said I am looking to date and see where it leads…or not!. He sent me a text and said “I see you posted another ad on the dating website. It sounds like you are looking for a friend with benefits. I don’t think you need to do that….not classy…”. The nerve!!! So I said “I appreciate your opinion..but why not? You are only looking for the occasional fling so I am not sure what the difference is? The fact that you are shopping on this website tells me that you are obviously looking for something that I don’t have so I am not sure why seeing the ad bothered you?” He has not responded. He was very deceitful as he responded to my ad for a long-term relationship knowing he doesn’t want one and he has the nerve to talk to me about class!! What is his problem? What should I do? Any insight about this? I don’t understand. He doesn’t want me, so why does he care?? And why does he keep texting me now and again??
Oh and I did tell him that I am not interested in a FWB.
Cindy
